Someone asked me if I'd ever considered my spouse might have a BPD

[Clide]

You've tried so hard for so long my friend said. That friend is a counselor now. I came to them about ten years ago concerning the high conflict-relationship I've had with my wife. This was last week. I told them my wife had filed for divorce, that I did not want it, and that it had been more than a year of waiting, praying, seeking counsel and continuing to advocate for the preservation of the marriage.

I am reluctant because, I am told if you can label a person, you can do anything to them. I am interested in how to deal with her wisely, truthfully, and with ovewhelming love. I am here because I see traits that fit BPD. I do of course want to test/confirm my inclinations most carefully.

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[Tattered Heart]

Welcome You've found a great place for support. I'm sorry to hear that your wife has filed for divorce. How are you handling things? Was this a sudden decision she came to? Has she ever left before?

I am told if you can label a person, you can do anything to them.

Could you explain what this means? I've never heard this phrase before.

[Mutt]

Hi Clide,



I'd like to join TatteredHeart and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm glad that you decided to join us. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a divorce that's very difficult.

I am interested in how to deal with her wisely, truthfully, and with ovewhelming love.

What's the status on this? Does she want to reconcile?