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[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I have a little tiny Harrier Jump Jet in my head  ... .or is it an F/A-18, maybe a whole section of F/A-18's !... .yes, "tinnitus" !
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Like that line from "Good Moring Vietnam"... ."Just play it LOUD... .ok!" ha ha ha

Red5

[Red5]

I have a little tiny Harrier Jump Jet in my head  ... .or is it an F/A-18, maybe a whole section of F/A-18's !... .yes, "tinnitus" !
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Like that line from "Good Moring Vietnam"... ."Just play it LOUD... .ok!" ha ha ha

Red5

[Red5]

Someone has been editing my posts again... .hmmm, that's ok 

... .my udx wife often tells me... .err, YELL's at me... ."YOU are NOT listening to me Red5!"... .

But honestly, .I really cant hear a bloody thing most daze  !

... .just ringing... .ring ring ringing... .that old "tv set" whining noise, .too many years on the flight line I guess,

Maybe one day, I will get really proficient at "reading" her facial expressions >: (

... .or maybe one day, I'll get proficient at reading her mind  ! 

Ya'll have a nice day !

Red5

[Red5]

... .sometimes, when udx wife tells me something, instead of saying "what did you say dear"; which aggravates her to no end~>... .I will instead repeat back to her exactly what I think heard... .for instance,

... .I hear, "where would you like to go for supper this evening"... .

Which registers in my ear as; "air wood who ike two hole for upper thin screening" ha ha ha ?

That's when the fight started... .

Yeah, I got issues 

Red5

[GaGrl]

You aren't alone, Red... .although I attribute my hearing loss to too many rock concerts.

My problem is with ambient noise.  If we are in a noisy restaurant, I can't hear what people at the table are saying unless I lean in.

[AskingWhy]

Having hearing loss is a big part of much of military life:  ammunition rounds going off, explosions of all sorts, jet engines.

Red, have you explained to your W of your hearing?  In my experience, pwBPD are "in the moment" and might forget even if you told her before.

My H destroyed my nice silk blouse with bleach spots.  He did not do this deliberately, but was so focused on cleaning (i.e. control issues) an item in the laundry room that he "forgot" that bleach stains clothes.

(I am still furious over this, nonetheless.)

pwBPD might need to be reminded.

[formflier]

I wear hearing aids.  And of course that ringing in there... .

The funny thing is that my hearing loss is "high", in the female voice range.  (You can't make this stuff up)

When I first got my aids, I would have my wife and daughters talk to me, because I had no idea how much I was missing.

Then... of course... when I want to be humorous... .my wife will talk and I'll point to my ears... .? no hearing aids... what did you say?   

Actually as long as she looks at me I can figure it out. 

It's also a blessing in disguise, because when my aids are out and she rants and I leave the room, it's pretty easy to not hear.

FF

[Red5]

I wear hearing aids.  And of course that ringing in there... .

It's also a blessing in disguise, because when my aids are out and she rants and I leave the room, it's pretty easy to not hear.

A good friend of mine, he was the "Seat Shop" Gunny (ejection seat and egress shop)... .down in the Harrier squadron we were serving in (my last squadron tour), .he had an old; and well used coffee cup, that said on it... ."I'm not ignoring you, I'm an aircraft mechanic, and I cant hear $hit anymore"... . !

... ."if you've ever used cigarette butts as "double hearing" protection, you may be an aircraft maintainer (or an ordnanceman)  !

Yeah, my udx wife calls "it" selective hearing ha ha ?... .hmmm, maybe ; )

Sometimes, when she has to repeat herself for the third time... .because I cant understand what she is trying to tell me, .she will say (yell) "RADIO CHECK TOP"... ."Top" is a nickname used to address a Master Sergeant in the Marine Corps... .

Red5