What to do with all of her stuff?

Hello everyone!

Okay, I"ll keep this much shorter than my other posts.

What do I do with all of her stuff? I live in a home alone and have things of hers all over the place.

I'm not sure if she will ever move back in, as well, in the last 90 days or so, she has flipped countless times between wanting to get married and not wanting to whatsoever. She lives in Florida, and I live in Michigan. And honestly, I'm getting to a point where I am tired of being on this roller coaster, I know my self-worth, and I don't deserve to be treated this way.

I am trying to get her to mail me back the second engagement ring we bought ASAP as I still have time to return it for a full refund. I really don't want to pay for something like this if she isn't really 100% certain she wants to marry me. I'm not opposed to getting one down the road if she is really for sure and shows me that she is able to commit.

Okay so, what do I do with all of her stuff?

Is an ultimatum totally in the wrong? I really want to return the ring before time is up to get a refund. At times I have gotten really angry with how she has treated me and during those moments, I have wanted to just throw everything of hers out in the trash, donate it etc.

I also know this is pretty low, but come on, there is a breaking point and I'm sure some of you understand.

I want to approach this in as mature of a way as possible but sometimes dealing with a pwBPD during a split is next to impossible in my opinion.

I also don't want to carry any of this stuff with me to the next location waiting for her or one of her family members to come and pick it up.

Any help would be much appreciated!



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