, due to it painting one person completely black and making the other person innocent. However, if we discuss it fairly it makes for some good discussion points. In some abusive relationships, this is the case, but I think in many relationships with someone with a PD both people are involved in the dysfunction. The way to change this is to not take victim perspective and look at ourselves at what we can change.
I think this is a good illustration of "why" we often try to nudge people away from black and white thinking. Especially thinking that would suggest the non "had" to do certain things, based on provocations from a pwBPD.
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