Hi
Couragetochange and welcome
It's so hard when our children go silent, struggle to communicate, it hurts and leaves us wondering, asking all the questions you are
With my DD I recognised she needed 'space' just to be, to work through her emotions, so I let her get on with it. Like your DD my DD knew I was there for her if she needed me. I did not consider her silence a power issue.
Do you think your DD's using her skills? Does she have ongoing support?
Welcome again, I'm glad you found us
WDx