new member sister BPD traits

[Mountain Amma]

  After my sister's 5th stroke and diagnosis of dementia, a friend getting her doctorate in counseling dropped off the Stop walking on Eggshells and workbook.  I took the workbook test for probability of BPD and my score was 32.  I can relate so well to the book.  She is in a hospital waiting to go to an assisted living facility.  We are not in the same state  but I try to call her every day  We have constant no win situations.  If I don't call it is no good but if I do call it is no good. I am trying to step back and keep my mouth shut as much as possible but it is hard when she accuses me of causing everything that is wrong.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome,
 Just so we can understand better, you are writing about your sister, who you think has BPD?