Helping my son find a DBT therapist

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My son is 27 years old and talks about occasionally getting help but then never follows through with it until there is some new dramatic happening.  Like a suicide attempt, or he gets drunk and the police are called, or all the myriad of dramatic things that happens to him on a regular basis.  The last time he contacted a suicide hotline, the operator was really quite beautiful and talked him down and got him to start thinking about DBT.  He gets overwhelmed really easily, and told me that he would be okay with me helping him with an appointment with the intake specialist.  I want to do this, is this enabling behaviour?

[DanceRat]

My son is 27 years old and talks about occasionally getting help but then never follows through with it until there is some new dramatic happening.  Like a suicide attempt, or he gets drunk and the police are called, or all the myriad of dramatic things that happens to him on a regular basis.  The last time he contacted a suicide hotline, the operator was really quite beautiful and talked him down and got him to start thinking about DBT.  He gets overwhelmed really easily, and told me that he would be okay with me helping him with an appointment with the intake specialist.  I want to do this, is this enabling behaviour?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[WritingLife]

My son is 24 and has also asked for, or welcomed help when he is having a good or neutral day. Bad days he acts like I am crazy. He gets indescribably mean, moody and intolerably cranky. He agreed to see a therapist, and then said he didn't know if he would. My thoughts are this - you live with me, you get help. In my experience, the patient is required to reach out to make an appointment (my son has yet to reach out to the therapists I've found who've said they can help). It's just a matter of time for me before he will not be welcome to come back through the front door.