Hi , I am new to the group.
I was told by a teacher at the age of 9 years my daughter was not playing with other kids on the playground. This was the start of seeing a psychiatrist who labeled her as have Asperger's syndrome. Throughout Elementary school she attended Speech Therapy and social skills class. In sixth grade the PE teacher said she had coordination issues and she see an Occupational therapist - all they recommended was more speech and language help with a sensory processing disorder.
I noticed my daughter changing going really dark with the emo look and music but thought ok she is getting older and is becoming a teenager. No , it was much worse than this she started to talk to older men , take pictures was sneaking around on the internet, having full blown tantrums. The whole time this was happening she was seeing a therapist since age 9 and
12 she started to cut herself , stab herself with a comb , when she felt overwhelmed with time management. Fast forward age 23 , she has been hospitalized 6 times now, including a stay at facility in Chino CA called the Discovery Center that was supposed to be this wonderful facility but all they did was tell us the insurance was cut off almost everyday the whole 2 weeks she was inside. My daughter is just so angry all the time , impulsive and will not work. I take her to a psychiatrist currently who thankfully she likes but she is only on Topamax , trying to get her to take an antidepressant and antipsychotic. Does anyone else have a child who is sensitive to medications - she complains about every single pill she has tried and its been a lot especially the pills that cause weight gain - flat out refuses to take them. When she was 15 gained 50 pounds on Risperdal and that was enough to traumatize her further in Highschool. Therapy just does not work for her , not sure if she understands it because she also has Sensory Processing disorder with the Borderline. I even tried to help her with a place called Brain Balance she agreed to go and started arguing with me so she wouldn't go anymore that lasted a month or so. I signed an expensive contract that I am stuck with the bill paying off. My daughter is manipulating family and men in her life to get what she wants. I have reached out so many times for help and nothing works , I feel like the more I try the more I fail. If she doesn't take medication I feel like no hope at all . My daughter gets social security but not enough to live off of monthly because she worked one time for 6 months and had a nervous breakdown, being so young she has not paid into the system. I just don't know how to get her to see she needs to support herself and just not sit home and do nothing. I was advised by brain balance she had the mentality of a 13 year old but she is 23 about to be 24 - this is so complicated! If anyone has any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated. I have been trying not to give into everything she asks for lately because I am just fed up with the way she treats me. My daughter does not live with me anymore and lives in her own apartment that my boyfriend and I help pay for . I know she does not like to be alone , I only live 10 minutes away. I want her to get a drivers license but at the same time fearful she will kill someone or drive the car into a wall to kill herself depending on her moods. I love my daughter and fear for her future after I have passed on someday. I really don't know where to go from here after 19 years of therapy for her to end up like this.
