Husband enmeshed with BPD MIL

[formflier]

Is she agreeing to pay a monthly payment...or is this a cash vehicle purchase?

Best,

FF

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[pursuingJoy]

She's giving a lump sum - another positive. H and I plan to cover the remaining small monthly payment.

He found a truck he wanted yesterday and sent it to me. I've worked hard to show interest and ask questions, and I really feel that we made this choice together.

So he called MIL yesterday to let her know. She said she didn't want to drive to the bank alone to get the check (sigh) so he drove up today to go with her.

We had a really interesting conversation about gifts last night that I'll create another post about on PSI - he said alternatively that he doesn't feel worthy of gifts, and that he feels the need to be worthy of gifts.