Ill name it hell and back

[Alessandro1983]

This is my first post and im glad I found this comunity after I read stop walking on eggshell...well my story is a really messed up one excuse my english its not my first language...well im with my wife for 15 years now we have 5 childrens she got a bpd diagnostic 2 years ago but since 6 months its look like his bpd has gone crazy more violence more denigration and now the physical violence started she hit me with broom and 5 days I ago she said she would kill me so I left the house but not witout the kids because I did it once and I had all police behind my back and I wa detained now im alone in hotel room and I get text from my daughter telling me that her mom always talks badly and everything but when she need someting I'm the one who got called but I ignore  that was a short story but I need advice if I should call the police or just stay quiet and contact a lawyer I don't have access to the finances because she made me left my job because she wasn't stable enough to take care of our kids yes I know its my fault because I complied with her demands but should I take legal action thank you for the support girls and guys

[Couper]

...but I need advice if I should call the police or just stay quiet and contact a lawyer.

Hi Alessandro.  I hate to hear about your troubles.  It sounds agonizing.  I think in a way you sort of answered your own question -- it's the type of thing a lawyer would need to answer, so yes, I would say to call one.  Laws vary a lot by location and  it sounds like you need guidance from someone that can tell you the right thing to do for wherever you are.

[pursuingJoy]

A lawyer sounds like a good way to go. I hope you find one soon. Are you home with her or are you still at the hotel?

If this applies, it might help to develop your exit strategy. What are the things you need to get away? Money? Legal assistance? Documents? A trusted friend? A place to stay temporarily?