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How to escape the drama triangle according to Stephen Karpman himself
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Here it is, straight from the horse's mouth: Avoid slippery people (so my entire family). Address one's co-dependency. Which is, of course, what people on this board have been trying to tell me, ever so gently.
Has anybody here tried out and liked the ASCA's support groups? Or SMART recovery groups? I didn't love the one ACA meeting I attended last year because of the religious overtones (triggering due to my religious upbringing) so I'm hoping to find an alternative.
ESCAPE TRIANGLES
“How do I get out of the triangle?” One place to start is with knowledge of the roles and
switches, knowledge of how and why you got there, and knowledge of the
consequences. As games escalate to 1st, 2nd, or 3rd levels, 1) the number of players
increase, 2) the geography covered widens, 3) the confusion and complexity increases,
and 4) the stakes increase to the level of “dire consequences.” Additional reading of
books on co-dependency and 12 step meetings are informative and supportive of
change. Avoid slippery places, slippery people, and slippery thinking. Change your
friends when you get free. With knowledge, when one then senses an invitation to a
new drama beginning, they can say “no” to drama.
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https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/pdf/thenewdramatriangles.pdf
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Good post: I just avoided a drama triangle, BPD offered financial help, then took it away, then I remembered she'd done this countless times before to countless people, so avoided getting upset or debating it - there is no help, there never will be.
“Slippery People” is a single on the Talking Heads Album “Stop Making Sence” which opens with the song "Psycho Killer". That ablum was ahead of it's time (1984).
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