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Author Topic: The Power of Validation (for parents) - Karyn D. Hall, PhD  (Read 9837 times)
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« on: February 03, 2012, 08:31:16 AM »

The Power of Validation
Author: Karyn D. Hall, Ph.D. and Melissa Cook
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications (December 1, 2011)
Paperback: 168 pages
ISBN-10: 1608820335
ISBN-13: 978-1608820337

Book Description
For all of us, learning to validate is a useful skill. If we are parents, whether parenting a child with BPD traits, parenting with a BPD partner or ex-partner, or parenting after having been raised by a parent with a PD, validation skills are especially important.

Validation—recognizing and accepting your child’s thoughts and feelings, regardless of whether or not you feel that your child should be experiencing them—helps children develop a lifelong sense of self-worth. Children who are validated feel reassured that they will be accepted and loved regardless of their feelings, while children who are not validated are more vulnerable to peer pressure, bullying, and emotional and behavioral problems.

The Power of Validation is a detailed resource for parents seeking practical skills for validating their child’s feelings without condoning tantrums, selfishness, or out-of-control behavior. You’ll practice communicating with your child in ways that instantly impact his or her mood and help your child develop the essential self-validating skills that set the groundwork for confidence and self-esteem in adolescence and beyond. It covers topics such as:

             *Understanding validation
             *Why parents invalidate
             *Overcoming roadblocks to success

About the Authors
Karyn Hall, Ph.D earned her doctorate in Child and Adolescent Psychology from the University of Virginia and completed her internship at Case Western Reserve University and Rainbow Babies and Children's Hospital. She also has a master's degree in Clinical Psychopharmacology from Alliant University/California School of Professional Psychology in cooperation with Texas A & M. She has been intensively trained and has also completed advanced training in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.

Melissa Cook is a wife and mother of three who also has personal recovery from an eating disorder and training in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.

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« Reply #1 on: February 03, 2012, 05:07:38 PM »

I ordered a copy - always looking for encouragement in using validation in my life, esp. with my gd6. qcr xoxo

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« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2019, 03:45:58 AM »

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I'm looking for comments from people who've read this book, or portions of it.

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« Reply #3 on: July 02, 2019, 10:48:38 PM »

Hi all   Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

I'm looking for comments from people who've read this book, or portions of it.

Thank you.

That I can remember, at least one of the authors was a protege of Marsha Linehan.

I found it a very accessible and easy read.  Though tailored for parents, what I didn't expect was how it made me think about how my mother invalidated me.  It's definitely worth reading, whether you have kids or not.  A few years later, it might be time for me to re-read it. 

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« Reply #4 on: July 03, 2019, 07:09:48 AM »

I read this sometime ago but I found it to be good common sense information. 


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