he can experiment with being very close to me without anything terrible happening.
It's quite hard for me still because of the tension between our reality and the idealized love he initially offered me. I just posted a new thread on my struggles around that (and of course, got some awesome feedback from the brilliant folks around here).
I hope you'll keep us updated on how this goes for you. Wishing you the very best with this -- you both sound really warm and loving toward each other, strangely as that manifests itself in this situation.
Thank you so much, P&C!
My ex lost his mom when he was 9 years old, so the need to feel very close without something terrible happening is a big struggle for him. He never allowed anyone to get as close to him as he did me, and he mentioned that again when I last saw him. The breakup was hard on him, where other breakups before had been easier because he just didn't allow anyone "in."
I'll check out your current thread. I guess I didn't realize I was reviving an old thread. It's a great one, though, and really spoke to me. You have been very helpful to me through your comments here.
