hit and run away

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I was NC for about 6 days. Didnt hear from her. I get a 100 text from her and then anothe one saying sorry that was ment for someone else. about 5 hours later another one again saying im sorry hope your ok. I dont respond. Dont hear another thing for 3 days. 100 am. a text asking of I was awake. I dont repond. the another one pleading for me to talk to her. Which I cave. She texts all this wonderful things and how she has found her answers now. I enage her. The next day phone calls and her talking about all she wanted do for us and how she has saw it all. last phone call was last night. Of course once I enege her all the future plans go out the  window, no I  love You just very blah conversations. Which she normall calls in the morning. Havent heard a peep from her. LOL it almost comical except involves real feelings. But Once again I feel like I was in a hit run. I standing there saying what just happened.

[mitchell16]

I was NC for about 6 days. Didnt hear from her. I get a 100 text from her and then anothe one saying sorry that was ment for someone else. about 5 hours later another one again saying im sorry hope your ok. I dont respond. Dont hear another thing for 3 days. 100 am. a text asking of I was awake. I dont repond. the another one pleading for me to talk to her. Which I cave. She texts all this wonderful things and how she has found her answers now. I enage her. The next day phone calls and her talking about all she wanted do for us and how she has saw it all. last phone call was last night. Of course once I enege her all the future plans go out the  window, no I  love You just very blah conversations. Which she normall calls in the morning. Havent heard a peep from her. LOL it almost comical except involves real feelings. But Once again I feel like I was in a hit run. I standing there saying what just happened.

[hithere]

But Once again I feel like I was in a hit run. I standing there saying what just happened.

This circular dance will continue for as long as you allow it.

[mitchell16]

Your are correct. Really amazing how they no how to find that one piece of bait that will make you bite. Of course when I didnt repond to her needs to talk to me it switched to emergency. Once I took the bait it was two days of talking about everything about "us" then I havent heard a sound. BPD steam rolled.

[toliveistofly]

I understand that your circumstances may not allow it (married, kids, etc) but I would block her number. If she calls from another number block that one. Block her on FB. Set up your emails to send hers directly to trash. It works.

[Phoenix.Rising]

Most likely she does not have the emotional capability to engage with you on a deeper level.  She will start it, then go silent or divert to something other than the relationship.  Like someone else said, it will probably go on forever if you allow it.  I hear and feel your frustration and pain.  Keep moving away from her, one day at a time, and moving more towards taking care of you.  You showed great strength not responding to her initially.  I know it's hard, but you can do it.

[GreenMango]

Mitchell I would like to echo Phoenix.Rising's words.  This is how this person engages you.  This likely will be the way things go. 

You've been here before on Leaving.  Maybe this time is a good opportunity to work the Attachment Leads to Suffering Detachment Leads to Freedom Leaving Lessons on the right hand side at the top (-----> )  Where are you in those steps 1 through 5?

Do you want out of this relationship?  What are your plans to handle things differently (this is important because whatever was going on before wasn't working so trying that again will likely yield the same results)?