Do you have mail at your house email...

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hey guys,

I just received an email from exwBPD:

"Not trying to bother you, but was wondering if any of my mail has been delivered to your house?"

I have some mail of hers... .  and even though it's unreasonable, I feel frozen at the moment and dont know how to respond after 2 months NC and 4 year off/on. I dont want to deal with this, but I know i cant hold her mail... .  i shouldve just returned to sender a long time ago.

What do I respond? I can drop off in her mom's mailbox... .  i dont want to ask for her address or tell her i will put return to sender... .  

[stoic83]

Hey guys,

I just received an email from exwBPD:

"Not trying to bother you, but was wondering if any of my mail has been delivered to your house?"

I have some mail of hers... .  and even though it's unreasonable, I feel frozen at the moment and dont know how to respond after 2 months NC and 4 year off/on. I dont want to deal with this, but I know i cant hold her mail... .  i shouldve just returned to sender a long time ago.

What do I respond? I can drop off in her mom's mailbox... .  i dont want to ask for her address or tell her i will put return to sender... .  

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[benny2]

I had mail coming to my pwBPD after I moved out and it was a way of getting me over there to lure me back in. Sounds like you have totally disconnected, (hurrah for you) and don't want any contact with her at all, so I would simply put not at this address and throw it back in the mailbox for the mailman.

[Blazing Star]

I can drop off in her mom's mailbox... .  i dont want to ask for her address or tell her i will put return to sender... .  

I think that's a great idea, dropping off in her mum's mailbox if you have that address and it feels too late to return to sender. Sounds like a good easy solution!

Then the rest you just return to sender as soon as it arrives.

Love Blazing Star