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								|  | « Reply #60 on: November 26, 2015, 11:27:10 AM  » |  | 
 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 High
 
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 1.50
 2.20
 1.50
 2.44
 2.33
 4.30
 3.00
 1.33
 2.50
 2.30
 1.56
 1.50
 3.40
 5.30
 
 | 4+
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 0
 1
 0
 1
 0
 8
 1
 0
 0
 1
 1
 0
 5
 10
 
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 Above norm
 
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #61 on: November 26, 2015, 10:40:58 PM  » |  | 
 
 I am an only child with a severe BPD mother and an alcoholic father. I was often the parent but also considered to be to blame.  Inner-resting. Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 Mod
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 Mod
 Mod
 Mod
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 Mod
 Mod
 
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 3.30
 2.10
 1.00
 1.89
 2.33
 2.90
 3.71
 2.67
 3.25
 1.50
 1.78
 2.60
 3.70
 3.50
 
 | 4+
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 3
 0
 0
 0
 0
 0
 5
 3
 2
 0
 0
 2
 6
 5
 
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 Above norm
 Above norm
 Above norm
 --
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 Above norm
 Above norm
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #62 on: November 27, 2015, 10:33:59 AM  » |  | 
 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 High
 Mod
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 Mod
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 Mod
 High
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 Mod
 
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 4.30
 3.00
 1.30
 1.78
 2.50
 2.40
 3.29
 3.78
 3.25
 3.20
 3.22
 2.60
 2.70
 2.90
 
 | 4+
 -------
 8
 3
 0
 0
 0
 0
 2
 6
 1
 3
 4
 1
 2
 3
 
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 Above norm
 Above norm
 --
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 --
 --
 Above norm
 Above norm
 Above norm
 Above norm
 Above norm
 Above norm
 --
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #63 on: December 03, 2015, 08:54:21 PM  » |  | 
 
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 High
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 Mod
 High
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 High
 High
 High
 
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 2.70
 2.90
 1.30
 1.89
 3.17
 4.50
 2.14
 2.11
 1.50
 2.20
 2.00
 3.40
 4.70
 5.60
 
 | 4+
 -------
 4
 4
 0
 1
 2
 8
 2
 2
 0
 2
 1
 5
 7
 9
 
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 Above norm
 Above norm
 --
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 Above norm
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 Above norm
 --
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 Above norm
 Above norm
 Above norm
 
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								|  | « Reply #64 on: December 04, 2015, 05:53:33 AM  » |  | 
 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 Mod
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 2,90
 2,40
 1,40
 1,11
 2,33
 3,60
 4,00
 1,56
 2,00
 1,80
 1,33
 2,70
 5,30
 4,60
 
 | 4+
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 3
 1
 0
 0
 0
 5
 5
 0
 0
 0
 0
 2
 9
 7
 
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 Above norm
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 Above norm
 Above norm
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #65 on: December 04, 2015, 10:39:27 PM  » |  | 
 
 I am not surprised but disappointed that I am not more stable. I wonder what it would have measured had I taken it prior to meeting my pwBPD. I will see this as a temporary set-back. I will not own it as mine for life. I can build and be what I was. Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
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 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
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 2.80
 3.80
 2.40
 2.70
 2.00
 3.50
 3.00
 2.80
 3.30
 3.00
 2.40
 2.40
 3.90
 4.00
 
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 -------
 0
 2
 0
 0
 0
 1
 0
 0
 0
 1
 0
 0
 2
 2
 
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 Above norm
 Above norm
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #66 on: December 08, 2015, 04:09:25 PM  » |  | 
 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
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 Demanding Parent
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 3.30
 3.00
 2.50
 3.00
 2.50
 3.60
 3.14
 2.44
 3.00
 3.00
 2.00
 2.30
 3.70
 4.30
 
 | 4+
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 4
 4
 2
 2
 0
 6
 1
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 2
 0
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 6
 9
 
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 Above norm
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #67 on: December 10, 2015, 09:46:55 AM  » |  | 
 
 Hmm... Not completely sure what I think of this. Haha... .but I am glad I did it.  Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 4.60
 2.10
 1.40
 1.89
 2.83
 2.80
 4.43
 3.89
 4.00
 3.00
 2.00
 2.20
 4.70
 4.10
 
 | 4+
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 8
 0
 0
 0
 1
 2
 5
 6
 3
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 9
 6
 
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 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
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								|  | « Reply #68 on: December 10, 2015, 11:07:16 AM  » |  | 
 
 Hi cloudten, I was just looking at the results in your Schema Inventory post and was wondering what was going through your head when you say you're not sure what you think about the results.  Do your results make sense to you in terms of what you know about yourself, would you say? My thoughts are this: 
 Certain modes are essentials features in BPD and they are low in your profile. They are: Angry Child/Enraged Child; Impulsive Child/Undisciplined Child; Bully and Attack mode and Punishing Parent.
 I note the high levels of healthy adult and low levels of Happy Child. 
 My question to you is this: What could you do to develop your Happy Child mode. How might you allow yourself and your inner child to have some child-like fun? Love Lifewriter |  
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								|  | « Reply #69 on: December 10, 2015, 07:45:06 PM  » |  | 
 
 Thank you for setting up this survey. I am both a happy and vulnerable child     Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 Mod
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 Mod
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 Mod
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 3.40
 2.00
 1.10
 1.89
 1.83
 3.60
 3.00
 2.33
 3.00
 2.60
 2.00
 2.00
 3.90
 4.30
 
 | 4+
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 5
 0
 0
 1
 0
 5
 2
 2
 2
 1
 1
 0
 8
 8
 
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 Above norm
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 Above norm
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 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #70 on: October 29, 2016, 10:03:47 AM  » |  | 
 
 Hmmm. above normal on a lot of these. What can we do with these results.  I think my vulnerable child connected with my BPDex's vulnerable child. We were long lost childhood best friends. My mind was completely blown and continues to be to this day. Unfortunately, although I found my long lost childhood best friend, very shortly after, he was lost again.  The pain of this loss was more than I could handle. I broke into a million pieces. Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 Mod
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 Mod
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 Mod
 --
 High
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 Mod
 High
 High
 
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 3.90
 3.50
 1.60
 1.78
 3.17
 1.90
 2.14
 2.67
 2.75
 3.30
 2.11
 2.60
 4.20
 3.90
 
 | 4+ -------
 5
 4
 0
 0
 2
 0
 1
 3
 1
 5
 1
 3
 8
 6
 
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #71 on: October 29, 2016, 08:12:07 PM  » |  | 
 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 High
 
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 1.10
 1.70
 1.00
 1.78
 2.17
 4.90
 1.71
 2.11
 1.75
 1.70
 1.33
 1.00
 2.20
 5.20
 
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 0
 0
 0
 0
 0
 9
 0
 0
 0
 0
 1
 0
 1
 10
 
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 Above norm
 
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 Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
I took the test again out of curiosity. I think that the results are pretty accurate considering where I feel like I am right now emotionally. Still processing some past (and recent) events. I think I'm gonna take it again in a six-ish months if I remember. I wonder how my scores now will have changed. I reckon I'll lose that above norm on the detached protector stance, but I can't object to my current result. I definitely have tended towards those behaviors the last several months... . |  
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								|  | « Reply #72 on: December 13, 2016, 03:17:05 AM  » |  | 
 
 | Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 Mod
 High
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 --
 Mod
 Mod
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 4.40
 2.20
 1.40
 2.78
 4.17
 2.40
 2.86
 2.78
 4.75
 2.30
 1.56
 3.10
 3.10
 2.80
 
 | 4+ -------
 8
 0
 0
 0
 5
 1
 1
 3
 4
 0
 0
 5
 3
 1
 
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 Above norm
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 --
 Above norm
 Above norm
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 Above norm
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 I took the test twice. It came out roughly the same, with the highest scores both times for vulnerable child, undisciplined child, detached self-soother, and punitive parent. All four modes describe me precisely. This is eye-opening. I will be bringing these results along to my first therapy session. Thank you to  bpdfamily for making this tool available. |  
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								|  | « Reply #73 on: January 09, 2017, 10:55:24 AM  » |  | 
 
 I just took the Schema Inventory, and I feel pretty good about it.  I have spent the last few years working on my self development, healthy parent mode, and self-acceptance. I feel like these results validate the work I have been doing and show that I am making improvements.    I still have a lot of work to do on my ":)emanding Parent" mode and "Compliant Surrender." I may have sometimes slightly deflated the intensity of statements, but I really tried not to. My inner nerd loves having this kind of validation of my progress.    Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 High
 
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 3.20
 2.60
 1.20
 1.78
 2.00
 2.60
 3.57
 2.22
 2.50
 2.60
 1.78
 2.80
 3.90
 4.20
 
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 2
 2
 0
 0
 0
 0
 5
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 0
 0
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 7
 6
 
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 Above norm
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 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #74 on: July 03, 2017, 07:18:11 AM  » |  | 
 
 Not sure what to make of the results as I am the loved one of BPD person. But when I took the he exam, I saw how she might feel and those statements have been made to me... she is open about her feelings... which is good?   Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
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 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
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 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 1.17
 4
 1.57
 1.33
 1.25
 1.5
 1.11
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 7
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 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #75 on: February 24, 2018, 10:05:49 PM  » |  | 
 
 Very interesting results - I completely agree with the High schemas. Not sure I understand exactly why the others are showing above norm? Definitely shows some things I want to work on... . Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
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 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
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 Demanding Parent
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 2.50
 1.30
 1.44
 3.50
 3.60
 4.43
 2.11
 2.50
 3.00
 1.56
 1.60
 3.00
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 3
 5
 5
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 3
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 7
 
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 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #76 on: July 14, 2018, 10:21:28 PM  » |  | 
 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 2.80
 3.10
 1.20
 1.33
 1.83
 3.50
 4.14
 2.33
 2.75
 1.80
 1.33
 1.90
 2.60
 4.50
 
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 2
 5
 0
 0
 0
 5
 6
 1
 1
 0
 0
 0
 1
 9
 
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 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #77 on: October 12, 2018, 12:57:56 PM  » |  | 
 
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 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
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 1.20
 1.50
 1.00
 1.33
 2.83
 4.70
 3.00
 1.44
 2.75
 1.40
 1.22
 1.50
 2.70
 5.50
 
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 0
 0
 0
 1
 9
 2
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 1
 0
 0
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 4
 10
 
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 Detached self-soother: Shut off their emotions by engaging in activities that will somehow soothe, stimulate or distract them from feeling. These behaviours are usually undertaken in an addictive or compulsive way, and can include workaholism, gambling, dangerous sports, promiscuous sex, or drug abuse . Another group of patients compulsively engages in solitary interests that are more self-soothing than self-stimulating, such as playing computer games, overeating, watching television, or fantasizing. |  
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								|  | « Reply #78 on: October 18, 2018, 01:20:30 AM  » |  | 
 
 INNATE CHILD MODESVulnerable Child:  Moderate| Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 High
 
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 3.50
 2.90
 1.10
 3.00
 2.83
 3.20
 3.71
 2.33
 3.50
 1.90
 1.56
 3.30
 4.10
 4.00
 
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 6
 4
 0
 2
 2
 4
 5
 1
 1
 1
 1
 5
 6
 5
 
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  feels lonely, isolated, sad, misunderstood, unsupported, defective, deprived, overwhelmed, incompetent, doubts self, needy, helpless, hopeless, frightened, anxious, worried, victimized, worthless, unloved, unlovable, lost, directionless, fragile, weak, defeated, oppressed, powerless, left out, excluded, pessimistic Angry Child: Moderate  feels intensely angry, enraged, infuriated, frustrated, impatient because the core emotional (or physical) needs of the vulnerable child are not being met Impulsive or Undisciplined Child: Moderate  acts on non-core desires or impulses in a selfish or uncontrolled manner to get his or her own way and often has difficulty delaying short-term gratification; often feels intensely angry, enraged, infuriated, frustrated, impatient when these non-core desires or impulses cannot be met.; may appear “spoiled” Happy / Contented Child: Moderate  feels loved, contented, connected, satisfied, fulfilled, protected, accepted, praised, worthwhile, nurtured, guided, understood, validated, self-confident, competent, appropriately autonomous or self-reliant, safe, resilient, strong, in control, adaptable, included, optimistic, spontaneousMALADAPTIVE COPING MODES  Compliant Surrenderer : Moderate  acts in a passive, subservient, submissive, approval-seeking, or self-deprecating way around others out of fear of conflict or rejection; tolerates abuse and/or bad treatment; does not express healthy needs or desires to others; selects people or engages in other behavior that directly maintains the self-defeating schema-driven patternMALADAPTIVE PARENT MODES Punitive Parent : Moderate  feels that oneself or others deserves punishment or blame and often acts on these feelings by being blaming, punishing, or abusive towards self (e.g., self-mutilation) or others.  This mode refers to the style with which rules are enforced rather than the nature of the rules. Demanding / Critical Parent : High  feels that the “right” way to be is to be perfect or achieve at a very high level, to keep everything in order, to strive for high status, to be humble, to puts others needs before one's own or to be efficient or avoid wasting time; or the person feels that it is wrong to express feelings or to act spontaneously.  This mode refer to the nature of the internalized  high standards and strict rules, rather than the style with which these rules are enforced; these rules are not compensatory in their function.Healthy Adult : High  nurtures, validates and affirms the vulnerable child mode; sets limits for the angry and impulsive child modes; promotes and supports the healthy child mode; combats and eventually replaces the maladaptive coping modes; neutralizes or moderates the maladaptive parent modes.  This mode also performs appropriate adult functions such as working, parenting, taking responsibility, and committing; pursues pleasurable adult activities such as sex; intellectual, esthetic, and cultural  interests; health maintenance; and athletic activities. |  
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								|  | « Reply #80 on: May 22, 2019, 09:15:59 AM  » |  | 
 
 Definitely interesting. This will take a little time to process. I'm surprised about the angry child score...I don't view myself as angry. At least not expressing it. But maybe I am and I need to find healthy ways to express how I feel. I'm trying to understand the results of both angry and happy child...I found many supports outside of my home so I suppose I have some conflicting feelings on my childhood. As far as the demanding parent. I think even as a really good kid, with high grades, and staying out of trouble, there was always something I was doing "wrong". On a different note. I maintained high standards for myself because that was what I saw as my way out of the situation...my education and ability to be self-reliant and not have to stick around longer than needed. Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
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 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
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 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
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 2.40
 2.30
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 2.11
 1.50
 3.90
 3.29
 2.44
 2.50
 1.80
 1.33
 1.80
 3.70
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								|  | « Reply #81 on: September 10, 2019, 07:33:42 AM  » |  | 
 
 Not sure what my takeaway here is, perhaps it's I've worked through difficult issues during my life, that held me back. I let go. My DD31 dx BPD-co morbid 2015, been through DBT and now with new T, schema, compassion, trauma therapy. I wonder what her starting scores might be. She has brought me here to learn from her. Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
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 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
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 1.33
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 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
 in other words, statistically higher than the general population.
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								|  | « Reply #82 on: December 22, 2019, 12:11:11 PM  » |  | 
 
 i had a little trouble with the excel file.  Parts of it were in some kind of Asian language. I couldn't use the cut/past function properly but the test itself worked fine. This is great for self reflection.  I had no idea I would score high on the demanding parent side!  Ha!  Take that everyone who thinks I was too easy on them!     Personally I thought I would have scored higher on the impulsive and undisciplined child side.  My parents were really good at discipline but I was still a naughty fun-loving child in school.  I still like to get crazy sometimes    Mode                     Tendency       Avg Vulnerable child             --               1.0 Angry Child                     --               1.1 Enraged Child             --               1.0 Impulsive Child             --               2.1 Undisciplined Child        --               2.0 Happy Child                   High       5.6 Compliant Surrender     Mod       4.0 Detached Protector      --               1.1 Detached Self-Soother    --      1.3 Self-aggrandizer               --              1.8 Bully and Attack mode     --      1.6 Punishing Parent       --              1.1 Demanding Parent     High       3.5 Healthy Adult           High       5.3 |  
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								|  | « Reply #83 on: June 01, 2022, 05:31:26 AM  » |  | 
 
 Thank you for providing such amazing tools for self-help ! Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.| Mode ----------------------------------
 Vulnerable child
 Angry Child
 Enraged Child
 Impulsive Child
 Undisciplined Child
 Happy Child
 Compliant Surrender
 Detached Protector
 Detached Self-Soother
 Self-aggrandizer
 Bully and Attack mode
 Punishing Parent
 Demanding Parent
 Healthy Adult
 
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 1,20
 1,78
 1,17
 3,30
 4,00
 4,44
 3,50
 1,80
 2,00
 2,00
 4,70
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 "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
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