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« Reply #60 on: November 26, 2015, 11:27:10 AM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency       High       Mod High
 Avg  1.50 2.20 1.50 2.44 2.33 4.30 3.00 1.33 2.50 2.30 1.56 1.50 3.40 5.30
 4+  0 1 0 1 0 8 1 0 0 1 1 0 5 10
 Compare to GP    Above norm           Above norm
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #61 on: November 26, 2015, 10:40:58 PM » 

I am an only child with a severe BPD mother and an alcoholic father. I was often the parent but also considered to be to blame. Innerresting. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod      Mod Mod Mod    Mod Mod
 Avg  3.30 2.10 1.00 1.89 2.33 2.90 3.71 2.67 3.25 1.50 1.78 2.60 3.70 3.50
 4+  3 0 0 0 0 0 5 3 2 0 0 2 6 5
 Compare to GP  Above norm      Above norm Above norm Above norm   Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #62 on: November 27, 2015, 10:33:59 AM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  High Mod      Mod  Mod High   Mod
 Avg  4.30 3.00 1.30 1.78 2.50 2.40 3.29 3.78 3.25 3.20 3.22 2.60 2.70 2.90
 4+  8 3 0 0 0 0 2 6 1 3 4 1 2 3
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm     Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm  
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.Ha... .idk how I got 'healthy adult' with the rest of those... .



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« Reply #63 on: December 03, 2015, 08:54:21 PM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod High   Mod High      High High High
 Avg  2.70 2.90 1.30 1.89 3.17 4.50 2.14 2.11 1.50 2.20 2.00 3.40 4.70 5.60
 4+  4 4 0 1 2 8 2 2 0 2 1 5 7 9
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« Reply #64 on: December 04, 2015, 05:53:33 AM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod     High Mod      High High
 Avg  2,90 2,40 1,40 1,11 2,33 3,60 4,00 1,56 2,00 1,80 1,33 2,70 5,30 4,60
 4+  3 1 0 0 0 5 5 0 0 0 0 2 9 7
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm     Above norm     Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #65 on: December 04, 2015, 10:39:27 PM » 

I am not surprised but disappointed that I am not more stable. I wonder what it would have measured had I taken it prior to meeting my pwBPD. I will see this as a temporary setback. I will not own it as mine for life. I can build and be what I was. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency   Mod    Mod    Mod   Mod Mod
 Avg  2.80 3.80 2.40 2.70 2.00 3.50 3.00 2.80 3.30 3.00 2.40 2.40 3.90 4.00
 4+  0 2 0 0 0 1 0 0 0 1 0 0 2 2
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm Above norm     Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #66 on: December 08, 2015, 04:09:25 PM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod Mod    Mod       Mod High
 Avg  3.30 3.00 2.50 3.00 2.50 3.60 3.14 2.44 3.00 3.00 2.00 2.30 3.70 4.30
 4+  4 4 2 2 0 6 1 0 1 2 0 0 6 9
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm   Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm  Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.This is refreshing nice to see the healthy adult and happy child acknowledged higher than what I thought it gives me hope!



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« Reply #67 on: December 10, 2015, 09:46:55 AM » 

Hmm... Not completely sure what I think of this. Haha... .but I am glad I did it. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  High      High High Mod Mod   High High
 Avg  4.60 2.10 1.40 1.89 2.83 2.80 4.43 3.89 4.00 3.00 2.00 2.20 4.70 4.10
 4+  8 0 0 0 1 2 5 6 3 3 0 1 9 6
 Compare to GP  Above norm      Above norm Above norm Above norm Above norm  Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #68 on: December 10, 2015, 11:07:16 AM » 

Hi cloudten, I was just looking at the results in your Schema Inventory post and was wondering what was going through your head when you say you're not sure what you think about the results. Do your results make sense to you in terms of what you know about yourself, would you say? My thoughts are this:
 Certain modes are essentials features in BPD and they are low in your profile. They are: Angry Child/Enraged Child; Impulsive Child/Undisciplined Child; Bully and Attack mode and Punishing Parent.
 I note the high levels of healthy adult and low levels of Happy Child.
My question to you is this: What could you do to develop your Happy Child mode. How might you allow yourself and your inner child to have some childlike fun? Love Lifewriter



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« Reply #69 on: December 10, 2015, 07:45:06 PM » 

Thank you for setting up this survey. I am both a happy and vulnerable child Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod     Mod   Mod    Mod High
 Avg  3.40 2.00 1.10 1.89 1.83 3.60 3.00 2.33 3.00 2.60 2.00 2.00 3.90 4.30
 4+  5 0 0 1 0 5 2 2 2 1 1 0 8 8
 Compare to GP  Above norm       Above norm Above norm   Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #70 on: October 29, 2016, 10:03:47 AM » 

Hmmm. above normal on a lot of these. What can we do with these results. I think my vulnerable child connected with my BPDex's vulnerable child. We were long lost childhood best friends. My mind was completely blown and continues to be to this day. Unfortunately, although I found my long lost childhood best friend, very shortly after, he was lost again. The pain of this loss was more than I could handle. I broke into a million pieces. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  High Mod   Mod   Mod  High  Mod High High
 Avg  3.90 3.50 1.60 1.78 3.17 1.90 2.14 2.67 2.75 3.30 2.11 2.60 4.20 3.90
 4+  5 4 0 0 2 0 1 3 1 5 1 3 8 6
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm Above norm  Above norm   Above norm Above norm Above norm  Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #71 on: October 29, 2016, 08:12:07 PM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency       High        High
 Avg  1.10 1.70 1.00 1.78 2.17 4.90 1.71 2.11 1.75 1.70 1.33 1.00 2.20 5.20
 4+  0 0 0 0 0 9 0 0 0 0 1 0 1 10
 Compare to GP         Above norm      Above norm
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.I took the test again out of curiosity. I think that the results are pretty accurate considering where I feel like I am right now emotionally. Still processing some past (and recent) events. I think I'm gonna take it again in a sixish months if I remember. I wonder how my scores now will have changed. I reckon I'll lose that above norm on the detached protector stance, but I can't object to my current result. I definitely have tended towards those behaviors the last several months... .



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« Reply #72 on: December 13, 2016, 03:17:05 AM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  High    High   Mod High   Mod Mod 
 Avg  4.40 2.20 1.40 2.78 4.17 2.40 2.86 2.78 4.75 2.30 1.56 3.10 3.10 2.80
 4+  8 0 0 0 5 1 1 3 4 0 0 5 3 1
 Compare to GP  Above norm   Above norm Above norm   Above norm Above norm   Above norm  

I took the test twice. It came out roughly the same, with the highest scores both times for vulnerable child, undisciplined child, detached selfsoother, and punitive parent. All four modes describe me precisely. This is eyeopening. I will be bringing these results along to my first therapy session. Thank you to bpdfamily for making this tool available.



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« Reply #73 on: January 09, 2017, 10:55:24 AM » 

I just took the Schema Inventory, and I feel pretty good about it. I have spent the last few years working on my self development, healthy parent mode, and selfacceptance. I feel like these results validate the work I have been doing and show that I am making improvements. I still have a lot of work to do on my ":)emanding Parent" mode and "Compliant Surrender." I may have sometimes slightly deflated the intensity of statements, but I really tried not to. My inner nerd loves having this kind of validation of my progress. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency        Mod      Mod High
 Avg  3.20 2.60 1.20 1.78 2.00 2.60 3.57 2.22 2.50 2.60 1.78 2.80 3.90 4.20
 4+  2 2 0 0 0 0 5 0 0 0 0 0 7 6
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm     Above norm Above norm    Above norm Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #74 on: July 03, 2017, 07:18:11 AM » 

Not sure what to make of the results as I am the loved one of BPD person. But when I took the he exam, I saw how she might feel and those statements have been made to me... she is open about her feelings... which is good? Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency       High        High
 Avg  1.1 1 1 1.44 1.17 4 1.57 1.33 1.25 1.5 1.11 1 2 4.4
 4+  0 0 0 1 0 7 1 0 0 0 0 0 1 8
 Compare to GP               
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #75 on: February 24, 2018, 10:05:49 PM » 

Very interesting results  I completely agree with the High schemas. Not sure I understand exactly why the others are showing above norm? Definitely shows some things I want to work on... . Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency      Mod Mod High   Mod   Mod High
 Avg  2.80 2.50 1.30 1.44 3.50 3.60 4.43 2.11 2.50 3.00 1.56 1.60 3.00 4.40
 4+  2 1 0 0 3 5 5 0 1 3 0 0 3 7
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm   Above norm  Above norm Above norm  Above norm    
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #76 on: July 14, 2018, 10:21:28 PM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency   Mod    Mod Mod       High
 Avg  2.80 3.10 1.20 1.33 1.83 3.50 4.14 2.33 2.75 1.80 1.33 1.90 2.60 4.50
 4+  2 5 0 0 0 5 6 1 1 0 0 0 1 9
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm     Above norm Above norm Above norm   Above norm  
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #77 on: October 12, 2018, 12:57:56 PM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency       High       Mod High
 Avg  1.20 1.50 1.00 1.33 2.83 4.70 3.00 1.44 2.75 1.40 1.22 1.50 2.70 5.50
 4+  0 0 0 0 1 9 2 0 1 0 0 0 4 10
 Compare to GP          Above norm (I'm an Alcoholic)     Above norm

Detached selfsoother: Shut off their emotions by engaging in activities that will somehow soothe, stimulate or distract them from feeling. These behaviours are usually undertaken in an addictive or compulsive way, and can include workaholism, gambling, dangerous sports, promiscuous sex, or drug abuse. Another group of patients compulsively engages in solitary interests that are more selfsoothing than selfstimulating, such as playing computer games, overeating, watching television, or fantasizing.



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« Reply #78 on: October 18, 2018, 01:20:30 AM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod Mod   Mod Mod Mod     Mod High High
 Avg  3.50 2.90 1.10 3.00 2.83 3.20 3.71 2.33 3.50 1.90 1.56 3.30 4.10 4.00
 4+  6 4 0 2 2 4 5 1 1 1 1 5 6 5
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm  Above norm   Above norm Above norm Above norm   Above norm Above norm 
 INNATE CHILD MODESVulnerable Child: Moderate feels lonely, isolated, sad, misunderstood, unsupported, defective, deprived, overwhelmed, incompetent, doubts self, needy, helpless, hopeless, frightened, anxious, worried, victimized, worthless, unloved, unlovable, lost, directionless, fragile, weak, defeated, oppressed, powerless, left out, excluded, pessimistic Angry Child: Moderate feels intensely angry, enraged, infuriated, frustrated, impatient because the core emotional (or physical) needs of the vulnerable child are not being met Impulsive or Undisciplined Child: Moderate acts on noncore desires or impulses in a selfish or uncontrolled manner to get his or her own way and often has difficulty delaying shortterm gratification; often feels intensely angry, enraged, infuriated, frustrated, impatient when these noncore desires or impulses cannot be met.; may appear “spoiled” Happy / Contented Child: Moderate feels loved, contented, connected, satisfied, fulfilled, protected, accepted, praised, worthwhile, nurtured, guided, understood, validated, selfconfident, competent, appropriately autonomous or selfreliant, safe, resilient, strong, in control, adaptable, included, optimistic, spontaneous MALADAPTIVE COPING MODES Compliant Surrenderer : Moderate acts in a passive, subservient, submissive, approvalseeking, or selfdeprecating way around others out of fear of conflict or rejection; tolerates abuse and/or bad treatment; does not express healthy needs or desires to others; selects people or engages in other behavior that directly maintains the selfdefeating schemadriven pattern MALADAPTIVE PARENT MODES Punitive Parent : Moderate feels that oneself or others deserves punishment or blame and often acts on these feelings by being blaming, punishing, or abusive towards self (e.g., selfmutilation) or others. This mode refers to the style with which rules are enforced rather than the nature of the rules. Demanding / Critical Parent : High feels that the “right” way to be is to be perfect or achieve at a very high level, to keep everything in order, to strive for high status, to be humble, to puts others needs before one's own or to be efficient or avoid wasting time; or the person feels that it is wrong to express feelings or to act spontaneously. This mode refer to the nature of the internalized high standards and strict rules, rather than the style with which these rules are enforced; these rules are not compensatory in their function. Healthy Adult : High nurtures, validates and affirms the vulnerable child mode; sets limits for the angry and impulsive child modes; promotes and supports the healthy child mode; combats and eventually replaces the maladaptive coping modes; neutralizes or moderates the maladaptive parent modes. This mode also performs appropriate adult functions such as working, parenting, taking responsibility, and committing; pursues pleasurable adult activities such as sex; intellectual, esthetic, and cultural interests; health maintenance; and athletic activities.



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« Reply #79 on: October 22, 2018, 11:14:42 PM » 

Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency  Mod    Mod        High 
 Avg  3.60 1.90 1.10 2.22 3.50 2.90 3.43 2.44 2.75 1.80 1.67 2.40 3.30 2.90
 4+  5 0 0 0 4 1 2 1 1 0 0 2 3 0
 Compare to GP  Above norm    Above norm  Above norm Above norm Above norm   Above norm  
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #80 on: May 22, 2019, 09:15:59 AM » 

Definitely interesting. This will take a little time to process. I'm surprised about the angry child score...I don't view myself as angry. At least not expressing it. But maybe I am and I need to find healthy ways to express how I feel. I'm trying to understand the results of both angry and happy child...I found many supports outside of my home so I suppose I have some conflicting feelings on my childhood. As far as the demanding parent. I think even as a really good kid, with high grades, and staying out of trouble, there was always something I was doing "wrong". On a different note. I maintained high standards for myself because that was what I saw as my way out of the situation...my education and ability to be selfreliant and not have to stick around longer than needed. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency   Mod    Mod Mod      Mod High
 Avg  2.40 2.30 1.00 2.11 1.50 3.90 3.29 2.44 2.50 1.80 1.33 1.80 3.70 4.80
 4+  0 3 0 0 0 8 3 0 0 0 0 0 6 9
 Compare to GP  Above norm Above norm     Above norm Above norm     Above norm 
 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.



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« Reply #81 on: September 10, 2019, 07:33:42 AM » 

Not sure what my takeaway here is, perhaps it's I've worked through difficult issues during my life, that held me back. I let go. My DD31 dx BPDco morbid 2015, been through DBT and now with new T, schema, compassion, trauma therapy. I wonder what her starting scores might be. She has brought me here to learn from her. Mode  Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached SelfSoother Selfaggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult
 Tendency       High        High
 Avg  1.00 1.20 1.00 1.22 1.67 5.00 1.43 1.00 1.50 1.50 1.33 1.20 2.50 4.70
 4+  0 0 0 0 0 10 0 0 0 0 0 0 2 8
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 Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function. Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 16). 4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode. "Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average)  stronger tendencies than the general population. in other words, statistically higher than the general population.Courage isn’t something you are born with. It is a skill that is acquired over time as you push through the little things in life that scare you. Courage can be learned but it starts with being yourself and showing up even when are scared or nervous.
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