BPD rapidly get worse with age?

[me757]

It seems like my uBPDex has completely gone off the deep end within the last year. I met her a year ago and she had the red flags but if you saw pictures of her from a year ago and then today, you'd think that she'd aged 5 years. I saw her last week for the first time in over a month and she just didn't look that healthy. She's a heavy drinker and it looks like the stress is really taking a toll on her. She used to do well in school a few years ago and had hobbies... . now she can't even finish a semester without dropping a class or two. She's more like a child now than anything. Although I know about BPD now, I don't think there would be anyway that I'd date her now with where she is mentally. She seems to be regressing rapidly too. Maybe its the extreme stress of being engaged to the new guy. Theres no way she could survive on her own now. Did anyone else have an exBPD that just kind of crumbled within a short period of time?

[mango_flower]

It may not be the age thing, but just a stage she is at in life.  Maybe she has had these meltdowns before, but was in a relatively good place when you met her?

My ex was the same, when I met her she was doing well and I had no reason to believe there was any issue... . ok she'd had a hard time in the past but she appeared to be doing well and had come out of that tough time.

When we ended, she went from being relatively normal and the most perfect partner I could ever have wished for, to a raging, emotional, basketcase.

When I put together the red flags I hadn't really picked up on, I believe she has done this before - but as I'd only known her a year, I had happened to meet her when she was in a relatively good place, if that makes sense?

[me757]

Now that I think of it I can see my ex having probably had a few meltdowns in her life. Her family seems to want her to get married... . and I think its because they are tired of taking care of her. Her younger sister is sick of her antics. Kind of sad but then again... . I could only take 6 months of it till I pulled the plug.