A goal I'd like to accomplish is to be able to visit my parents and see my family again. However I feel that the only way to do that is to try something smaller like see how she would respond to me hanging out with a person from work for a couple hours without her being there or something that would as innocent and rational as possible. Or me just going to the woods without her or fishing. Just to test the waters of how it might go. Because I have no idea how to bring up I want to have contact with my family again.
Have you used SET much? It would be a good idea to start trying it out with little things and then practise in your head with the trip to your parents and then tell her.
S=Support
E=Empathy
T=Truth
EG Honey, I care about you and your feelings (S), I understand that you find it hard that I want a relationship with my parents (E). It is important to me to have a relationship with them, and I am going to visit them next month.
How could you apply using this to something small? Great idea about hanging out with a friend or going fishing. Let us know. We are here for you!
Love Blazing Star
