hi FranklyTired! And could your name be any more descriptive about what it's like dealing with a parent with BPD?
Oh I feel ya, tho my mother has been gone for a bit more than a decade, the wounds went deep and it was one confusing ride.
Welcome to you too, curtainsforspain, you are so right, none of us have to deal with this alone especially once you've found the bpdfamily. Thankfully!
I didn't even realize my mother had BPD traits until I was reading a book my therapist had suggested I read when I was trying to understand what was going on with my husband, and started seeing my mother all over the pages of the book. It was "Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Randi Kreger, and she has a newer one called "The Essential Family Guide to BPD" that is set out in a very organized manner and includes the new things she has learned in between the writing of the first and second. I found it really helpful sanity wise, as their traits can make us feel like we are losing our minds. And surprisingly, the BPD sufferer comes from a place of a poor sense of self, according to Randi Kreger. They may seem all large and in charge, but it's actually that they see reality differently than we nonBPD sufferers do.
I love this video--it's a brief but great view of what's happening in our r/s (relationship) with the pwBPD (person with BPD.)
Video-What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Give it a view and see what you think.
This is a supportive community where you can learn and grow in your understanding, and there's even a specific board where those of us with a family member or even a friend with BPD can go to ask questions and learn from the senior members who have a wealth of knowledge and experience with the subject. So
and keep on posting/reading/sharing, this is the perfect place to find you really don't have to walk this road alone.
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