They understand just fine. It's a control thing and a baiting thing.
I agree with this. They understand just fine. They enjoy your squirm.
I give my ex her distance. I've stopped talking about the marriage/relationship months ago because it's not something that she wants to discuss. I'm assuming it's because of the guilt/shame that she feels about her affair and walking away. If I mention any of those things, it's anger and blame. The subjects at hand between me and her are about the kids, and it doesn't even seem like she can grasp organizing dates and times in her messages. It's an e-mail! Scroll down and read what you wrote!
Control & baiting makes sense. I've known her for 8 years. She's been gone for 10 and there were long periods were we didn't talk or it was to the point. This is a behavior I have only seen a few times during out r/s, but never as often. She would say "your not being clear" to me once when we were together, but now she'll say it up to 3 times in an e-mail. I used to get frustrated at her and reply back angrily, but I've stopped doing that.
I'm glad that I came here and asked. I never would of guessed. But man, the games that she plays