Closeness triggers & terrifies them. It feels engulfing & controlling. It can take a while for those feelings to settle down (& then they recur). It's probably not rejection, & SF, she's probably being truthful about her feelings.
Think of befriending a feral cat. The mistrust is comparable.
This is what drove me crazy about my uBPDexgf. She really didn't want to let me go, but she would not give me the love I deserve. Towards the end of our relationship, she told me that I am afraid to give her space because I am afraid of losing her - that's projection because I gave her all the space in the world and she still felt suffocated, when in reality, she was the one who was clinging to me! Howeevr, I wasn't the one doing the suffocating, she was doing it to herself. The deeper our relationship got, the more afraid she became. Her new b/f looks to be a superficial clown, so I'm sure itll last llonger than us because that's what she can handle, but not really what she wants. But the engulfing/controlling that she accused me of was so outrageous on so many levels. 1. We were in a LDR at that moment in time and we saw each other 2-3 times a month. 2. If I went out she would text me constantly to make sure she still had my attention even if I was out with my friends (she even faked an accident one time and I ran home to stay on the phone with her after a night of drinking). Even when she went out with her friends I'd tell her "have fun" and go about my business, but she would constantly text me. Yet, I was the one who was clingy? It's madness!
