Ouch

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

After my BPD gf exploded at my son and lost her temper, I told her I needed space.  Now she is posting on my facebook page that our relationship is "complicated" without waiting until we discussed it first.  I have work friends, family, etc and am not okay sharing our personal relationship business back and forth online like this.  I am sad and having difficulty with the no contact.  Now I want to reach out to her and make everything okay.  The pain is deep.

[recoverynow]

After my BPD gf exploded at my son and lost her temper, I told her I needed space.  Now she is posting on my facebook page that our relationship is "complicated" without waiting until we discussed it first.  I have work friends, family, etc and am not okay sharing our personal relationship business back and forth online like this.  I am sad and having difficulty with the no contact.  Now I want to reach out to her and make everything okay.  The pain is deep.

[MrFox]

Have you decided whether or not you want to try and work it out with her?

[Lucky Jim]

Hey recoverynow, Getting back together so your BPDgf won't post negative things on your FB page seems like a drastic measure.  Suggest you take your time and pause before jumping back in the BPD waters (there are sharks in there!).  In addition, suggest you establish a boundary that you don't want her posting like that on FB.  Lucky Jim

[fromheeltoheal]

With her blowing up at your son and you saying you need space, "complicated" might be an accurate label for the relationship?  Getting back together to stop the public broadcast may work, but it puts you back on the crazytrain; time to decide if you want to be in a relationship with this woman?

Questions:

Does she treat you and your son with respect?

Do you trust her?

Can you openly discuss issues and work towards win-win solutions?

Do you feel valued by her?

Is a long term relationship with this woman what you want?  Will it work?

[nevertheless]

I hope you will stay away from her your son needs you to stand up for him. You can do it

[Perfidy]

Hey RN... How goes it? Starting to get a little easier for you I hope. Just wanted to say that some folks just really got no filters. Drag their dirt out and show it to every one. That makes her look how you feel. It's like arguing in front of the kids. Ya... You got problems but who the hells business is it? Let me see if I can guess. You became cautious with her around your friends because you never knew what was liable to come out of her mouth. Am I a mind reader?