Has anyone who is married to a BPD cheated?

[waverider]

Most nons live with constant reminders on how life can get ugly if they cross their BPD partner. They are not living in a delusional world. This is a great deterrent for what will happen if they do get busted, which is highly likely given the paranoia levels. So even if the non partner probably has more reason to day dream about it more than regular folks, the risk is too great and the consequences are all too real.

Most normal folks involved in affairs will delude themselves of the consequences.

i would say the desire is high, but the incidence is low

[Soulsisters]

The occurrence may be low.  But when it happens all hell breaks loose.

[misterfire17]

Thanks Pearl and RJ- I appreciate the response and support. I am extremely loyal and committed and in most cases my largest fault is that I don't know when to quit. RJ's advice sounds good and I will pursue the disregulated push back as this has somewhat worked in the past. Good luck to all.