Love Bomb: Phase 1

[Depression = 72% of members]

Mine lasted about 3 months before the breakup/makeup cycles began.

How long did yours last and if you were replaced how long did your replacement's last?

Arn

[arn131arn]

Mine lasted about 3 months before the breakup/makeup cycles began.

How long did yours last and if you were replaced how long did your replacement's last?

Arn

[Waifed]

Don't know, don't care. Movin on... .

[arn131arn]

Yeah,  Waif.  I am not there yet... . wish I was, but honestly looking at it, I am not there

[Perfidy]

Yo arn... . I was the replacement. It lasted over seven years.

[Waifed]

You'll get there and when you do it will all be so clear. Life is good.

[Waifed]

Yo arn... . I was the replacement. It lasted over seven years.

Lol... . I was probably a replacement during our 3 year relationship a dozen or more times and I didn't even know it!

[Perfidy]

Arn there was life before her and there will be life after her. Hell... . your a bartender. You see sh|t like this all the time. You were in it for a long time arn... . I understand. Waifed is absolutely correct. It does get better. Listen arn... . I know you don't want to hear this but you NEED to accept that she may NEVER come back. You should know by now how poison she is to you and be glad she's gone. I KNOW HOW HARD THIS IS... and I hope you start feeling better soon because you are grieving. I did the same. I still fall back in. The depression was almost too much for me. I hope no one has to go through what I did and I care about you.

[State85]

After this breakup I figured out I was also a replacement. And guess what, I got replaced again, by the same person I replaced. How twisted are these people... .

I'm speechless, I'm without speech... .

[myself]

It was much more like a minefield. It was there long before I was with her and will be there ever after. It's who she is. The part of me that was attracted to that wised up and got out of there while there was still enough left of me to do so. I tried to defuse as many of them as I could but there were just too many.

[sun seeker]

  Dam these BPDers... . Man they cause so much destruction in our lives. It honestly pisses me off. I feel a connection with all of you nons. No one who hasn't lived this can truly understand. I was a replacement. Didnt know till i went through her phone one night and dam was i floored.  I was cheated on 6 times, I know of in a 11 month r/s.

Im learning to let go of the hurt, pain. It takes time and for me that SUCKS. My mind races with the why, and the how could she, did she ever love me, did she mean anything she said. What the heck! They are severly defective. And no amount of hope, love or whatever will ever make them good for anyone. Im at the point where im glad to be split black. Ive been N/C 6 weeks. Im starting to feel like me again. I live in fear of the next contact from her. Because if you read her text or answer the phone it will rip open that wound again. My x BPDgf had two previous ex's commit suicide because of the pain she caused. They left notes to this effect, one was the guy I replaced.

"This to shale pass" Good luck to every one suffering from the agony these BPDers cause.

[nolisan]

Early on I dumped rhe ex after a red flag (raging). Then she dropped an atomic love bomb - hooked me for another nine months. The radiation is still effecting me after over 1 year NC.

The love bomb is one of a disordered personalities most dangerous and effective weapons.

Hang in there Arn - It DOES get better (but you'll never forget them)