Trying to sever the ties

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

As I continue down the path of severing the ties, a comment made this morning really took me by surprise. I have told her it's over, I don't have the energy or feelings anymore. I spent the weekend at family/friends with limited contact.

After a brief discussion that ended "ok". I responded to a text repeating what I said which is that I am sorry and that I gave her all I had but I have to end the relationship as it has drained me to the point I have no more energy. She then responds with ":)id you think I didn't want a relationship with you because of the way I treated you?"

If that one question doesn't show how twisted the mind of a BPD is, I don't know what does. What adult that is emotionally healthy would realistically ask that question? I am happy I have stopping trying to piece together the puzzle she has lived and have taken ownership for my choices and actions. She repeats the "You made me (fill in the blank) and I tell myself I didn't make her do a thing.

The papers are ready to be sent in but tomorrow is her birthday and I don't think I want to go there.

[BPD_NYY]

As I continue down the path of severing the ties, a comment made this morning really took me by surprise. I have told her it's over, I don't have the energy or feelings anymore. I spent the weekend at family/friends with limited contact.

After a brief discussion that ended "ok". I responded to a text repeating what I said which is that I am sorry and that I gave her all I had but I have to end the relationship as it has drained me to the point I have no more energy. She then responds with ":)id you think I didn't want a relationship with you because of the way I treated you?"

If that one question doesn't show how twisted the mind of a BPD is, I don't know what does. What adult that is emotionally healthy would realistically ask that question? I am happy I have stopping trying to piece together the puzzle she has lived and have taken ownership for my choices and actions. She repeats the "You made me (fill in the blank) and I tell myself I didn't make her do a thing.

The papers are ready to be sent in but tomorrow is her birthday and I don't think I want to go there.

[Mutt]

She then responds with ":)id you think I didn't want a relationship with you because of the way I treated you?"

It's emotionally draining stuff. I'm sorry   She's throwing up FOG and blaming you. She can't take responsibility or emotions that are associated with accountability and responsibility and she is trying to associate the negative behavior on you with projection. It's a defense mechanism for protection.