Hi screwedfriend,
Could you clarify for me whether you guys actually communicated formally about breaking up, and if so how that went?
So they feel no remorse or guilt for the horrible things they do to people? That is amazing to me.
I think there is a better way to think about this, which is: they have near-impenetrable defenses set up against these feelings (projection, splitting, etc). So when these rear their ugly heads, they come across much differently than they would for you and I (and, almost always, we end up hurting).
This site has provided me and many others with enormous insight and support. Keep reading and posting. I'm glad you're here.