Hi, The ongoing ST saga. Day 17 . uBPD BF of 6 years sends a text today saying sorry he forgot to reply earlier. His text said he can do some work on the house project this weekend if our schedules lineup.
I need some advice.
My first thoughts were angry... ."Ya right" He "forgot" to reply after a week that I replied to his first text... .as if I was reduced to some insignificant thing that could be easily overlooked. And he passed by me yesterday and still forgot? Liar. Liar. Coward. Bleep.
Second thought Practical... .well I need the project to be completed and he offered.
Third thought Fear... .Wondering if this is staging a recycle or precursor to the end breakup talk. Gotta face it sooner or later.
Any thoughts to how I should reply to the text. Business like? Matter of Fact?
It will feel awkward to have him around again if he stays cold and detached. It might feel like just another handyman came to complete a project. Ugh.
BTW I had a really great time out with friends last night. I seized the evening and felt like my old self. No drama, no BPD issues, just music and dancing and laughter. I missed that.
One of the things that is more a "tactic" than a solution is to limit texting... .and switch to voice only.
That allows you to use SET... .focus on validation and passing emotion back and forth.
Very hard to do this in text.
In my r/s the misunderstandings that came out of texting issues were huge. Not to mention the times it was an outright tool to bash each other.