D16 pregnant pt ii

[MammaMia]

SeaSprite

DD's bf did not tell his family her age?  Interesting.  I wonder what else he has not told them.  

I suspect this information may create a "what are you thinking?" family discussion.  At least I hope so.

Time for a reality check.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[HealingSpirit]

One problem down, nine hundred ninety nine more to go.

Thank you for keeping your sense of humor, SeaSprite!  I don't know HOW you're staying so beautifully calm and pragmatic about this dreadful situation. You're an example for us all!

Thank you. 

[SeaSprite]

Thanks healingspirit. I'm not sure about calm though, might be bordering on clinical depression. 

Which probably looks a little like calm. 

[HealingSpirit]

Thanks healingspirit. I'm not sure about calm though, might be bordering on clinical depression. 

Which probably looks a little like calm. 

You know? I understand this a little bit too well. I have been on Prozac since my DD was 14. There is only so much beating up and stress a person can take before it wears us down.

I really appreciate your sense of humor through the turmoil you're going through. It really helps me to chuckle at the absurdity of all we go through.  I'd rather laugh than cry any day, and some days either one, or both may apply.

 

[theplotthickens]

On that topic, sometimes a glass of wine can look a whole lot like a good coping mechanism.  You know, things look better with a glass of merlot and a good dessert.  You are due for something pretty lavish, after all you've been through!

[HealingSpirit]

On that topic, sometimes a glass of wine can look a whole lot like a good coping mechanism.  You know, things look better with a glass of merlot and a good dessert.  You are due for something pretty lavish, after all you've been through!

I couldn't agree more. I second the toast! 

[peace in steel town]

Sea sprite, how far along is your daughter? Things may change when she gets closer to the due date, when she is not so cute and fun, bf may move onto greener pastures. Doesn't change that you have a pregnant daughter, just what problem you have to deal with today. As far as the question posed by Js friend, yes, dd wants us to adopt the baby so children's aid won't take it away at birth, and they would be okay with that. The problem is that even if we adopt this baby, there is nothing to stop dd from cranking out several more, and we can't adopt all of them. Our dd got pregnant on purpose, and I think that having a baby was one way of staying on welfare as long as possible.   

[SeaSprite]

I've just finished a bit of gin on the rocks. Feeling mellow. 

D is only 9-10 weeks. I keep expecting him to move on... .he might actually be working on leaving now... .He is gone for 17 days of National Guard training out of state, and he is hoping to qualify for another round that will be 12 weeks after that. We'll see... .

She seems pretty attached to the idea of being a mom.

Today she was supposed to start her new quarter at the college, but she was too sick to go. Urg.

My older d (who had a difficult time of it until recently) has said she's glad not to be the identified problem anymore, since she'd have to be a coke addict to be worse than sixteen and pregnant. So competitive! She is doing well though, she has a new job that is the first rung on her career ladder.

Now if only younger d would get with the program!

[theplotthickens]

Hi Sea Sprite,

I'm a Beefeater girl myself.    How did this week go?  You are in  my thoughts and prayers.  May you find strength, wisdom and hope.  How do you feel within yourself and how are you coping?  Sending hugs your way.