weird call.

[Infern0]

She just called me for a reason where an email would have been sufficient,  introduced herself to me as a stranger and requested something,  then said she would send an email but instead called back 30 seconds later (a colleague answered)

Those calls were not needed. I handled it pretty well,  being all business and not letting it get to me.

Feel eerie inside now though

And just realized back to NC day 0

[Infern0]

Sorry to double post but this has really got to me, how can she do that,  bold as brass make completely unnecessary contact and then try again 30 seconds later.  After everything and accusing me of causing her all this pain and mysery.

The thought of contact with her causes me so much stress and I'd do anything to avoid it. Yet the supposed victim has the sheer and utter cheek to break nc for no reason!

And I'm left feeling nauseated and itchy from that 15 second driveby attempt

[Chasing_Ghosts]

Hey Infern0,

Sorry to hear your ex is tormenting you after working to hold to no contact. Tbh its funny to me how bold they can be. After all this pain and misery they put us through with the games they play then to act like contact is welcomed. Then to go as far as to blame and project their dark on us. Its sick. As if wounds arent enough that they inflict on us and they have to come back and occasionally rub in some salt. And i know that feeling the contact/encounters it lingers in the pit of your stomach sending shivers down your spine and resonates such unrest in the soul.

Could be the replacement and her split or are going through a rough patch. Shes using you to make him jealous with the contact or triangulating to take some of the stress off her relationship by this projection. Maybe even trying to lead to recycle attempt. Or just to see that your still there/get a reaction. Regardless its obvious shes low and needs some form of emotional support/supply from you. Something quite frankly in my opinion she doesn't deserve.

The drive-by... would really just cross the line for me. It makes sense youd be nauseated at such blatantly vulgar displays of disrespect.  

[Infern0]

Well shame on me but I had a gander at the replacements instagram ... .I know I know.

Anyway there is some cryptic comment about "masks" and stuff that generally resonates to her condition so it seems all may not be well in Wonderland,  time to steel myself for the incoming recycle attempt I think.

[Recooperating]

Hey Inferno,

Isnt it amazing that BPDs totally lack the ability to respect boundaries?

Still after the break up its all about their needs. They know we dont want contact, they still keep trying, manipulating and sucking us back

GIve yourself credit though, you didnt cave, you didnt get sucked back in, you saw things for what they were and stood your ground! It shows how much we've grown!

We dont buy the pitty parties and pouching anymore! Good for you!

Dont let this b*tch ruin your mood or day. She destroyed enough. Back to NC, back to taking care of you and maybe next time, hang up immediately when its her on the phone.

Not very polite, but what goes around comes around... .

Hang in there!

[Infern0]

Hey Inferno,

Isnt it amazing that BPDs totally lack the ability to respect boundaries?

Still after the break up its all about their needs. They know we dont want contact, they still keep trying, manipulating and sucking us back

GIve yourself credit though, you didnt cave, you didnt get sucked back in, you saw things for what they were and stood your ground! It shows how much we've grown!

We dont buy the pitty parties and pouching anymore! Good for you!

Dont let this b*tch ruin your mood or day. She destroyed enough. Back to NC, back to taking care of you and maybe next time, hang up immediately when its her on the phone.

Not very polite, but what goes around comes around... .

Hang in there!

She would have wanted me to break like I used to would have done, tell her I miss her and I'm "sorry" for doing absolutely nothing wrong like I always would have. I'm sure my emotionless reaction would have confused her.

But as you say,  back to living my life free of carrying the one ring.