Are pwBPD, psychopaths?

[Depression = 72% of members]

I believe pwBPD are genuinely looking for love, but they don't have an understanding of healthy love or the ability to attach due to their chaotic lives, and therefore can't give (don't have the ability to give) healthy love.

Yes. It could be they can't even love or trust themselves very much. Are ashamed of their actions, good and bad. So it's like they're seeking what they feel they don't deserve. Unable to live it once they're there.

This is pretty much it. Mine pretty much told me all that,  worded slightly different.  It's just alien to them,  the notion of it

[Infern0]

I believe pwBPD are genuinely looking for love, but they don't have an understanding of healthy love or the ability to attach due to their chaotic lives, and therefore can't give (don't have the ability to give) healthy love.

Yes. It could be they can't even love or trust themselves very much. Are ashamed of their actions, good and bad. So it's like they're seeking what they feel they don't deserve. Unable to live it once they're there.

This is pretty much it. Mine pretty much told me all that,  worded slightly different.  It's just alien to them,  the notion of it

[SlyQQ]

yes Nazis and serial killers was heavily into crime fiction as well as to what are the traits af a BPD it is really to tell if someone has BPD but hard to explain one of those under my care has said to me I HATE YOU :)ONT GO! in the samr breath I kid you not whren she gets upset but i would bet my life she is not BPD her sister on the other hand i was convinced of long before there were any formal signs of mental illness ( at aprox 15 )

[SlyQQ]

just an ammendum meant it is really easy to tell if someone is BPD also it was easy to tell her sister was BPD ( an yes my ex had BPD ) it does take quite a few years an a couple of oceans of tears to learn though

[Chasing_Ghosts]

just an ammendum meant it is really easy  to tell if someone is BPD

also it was easy to tell her sister was BPD ( an yes my ex had BPD )

it does take quite a few years an a couple of oceans of tears to learn though

Yea i can completely relate. I knew my exs sister had major issues before my ex with all the stories id hear and how off she acted when i met her. Also just by the behavior of how her sister would constantly convince her to "leave me" when they were on the phone after a fight wed have. Instead of calming her down shed just increase the drama 10 fold. That and how she drained her husbands savings dry, ran off for over a month sleeping with all manner of guys, partying to get drunk/high constantly with the money and then the chump took her back without her so much as showing any remorse for her actions. But by this time she had "broke" him. The one time i met him we got along really well. And somehow i saw my future self in him if i didnt get out... never again.