Why Did I Start Missing Her Today?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

We haven't spoken in almost a month.  The two weeks before that were sporadic angry texts (from her). 

I had gotten to the point where I was hardly thinking about her already.  Then today, I started missing her like crazy. 

I don't get it.  Why?

[captainp]

We haven't spoken in almost a month.  The two weeks before that were sporadic angry texts (from her). 

I had gotten to the point where I was hardly thinking about her already.  Then today, I started missing her like crazy. 

I don't get it.  Why?

[Mutt]

I can relate. I felt like I had periods of smooth sailing and then I'd miss her out of the blue. It was hard adjusting to bachelorhood at first for me.

If you think about it. These relationships are VERY intense right?

Idealization phase, the ups and downs, emotional barrages, impulsive acts that illicit emotional responses. It's really hard experiences and I think it takes time to leave it behind and heal.

I don't recall old girlfriends that triggered such painful memories from past relationships. This one was definitely different and likely one I'll never forget and she's one for the books.

It was also one where I learned the most from and became a better man and found my true potential.

[peiper]

I think when I missed her what I was really missing the fantasy she represented, not her.

[evilpepsi]

there are still times in which something can trigger a memory of an ex from years ago and i suddenly find myself missing her. it happens... .

[Deeno02]

Im 4 months out and barely think of her much. But when it does happen, its a pretty strong feeling. Dont worry about it. It happens. Just try to either take the pain and work with it, or try to force it out of your head. Most times it happens at home. So, I go run or lift. Something to keep the raw nerve intact. Not gonna lie, I do miss her and her kids, especially now with the holidays. But it is what it is. She made a choice to find greener pastures. Our job is to get well again... .