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« on: December 10, 2014, 10:33:54 PM » |
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She is obviously snooping me. I typed in K in search and her name popped up. Had been blocked for 2 weeks. Should I take this opportunity to block HER?
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« Reply #1 on: December 10, 2014, 10:37:28 PM » |
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post about life being good. throw up some happy stuff. make her think that she never existed in your head... .
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« Reply #2 on: December 10, 2014, 10:47:43 PM » |
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Block her and be done with the games man.
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« Reply #3 on: December 10, 2014, 10:50:49 PM » |
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even if you block her she will still find a way to snoop. they always do... .
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« Reply #4 on: December 10, 2014, 10:52:22 PM » |
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My ex unblocked after 7 months and that was in July.Still have had no contact she can creep all she wants. I disagree with blocking that is the reaction she is looking for don't give her the satisfaction. Not to mention she could create another account. Just lock it down if you don't want her seeing anything.
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« Reply #5 on: December 10, 2014, 10:56:27 PM » |
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Blocking should be about you and your needs not for aggrevating them. If you share friends and you dont want them popping up then block them.
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« Reply #6 on: December 10, 2014, 11:31:54 PM » |
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It's messing with me bad. And when I left my cousins place tonight (my cousins wife is my ex's best friend) She was driving by, stopped in the middle of the road as I was going out the door, then drove off. What the heck.
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« Reply #7 on: December 10, 2014, 11:35:48 PM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.
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« Reply #8 on: December 11, 2014, 12:25:32 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. |
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« Reply #9 on: December 11, 2014, 12:31:51 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. |
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« Reply #10 on: December 11, 2014, 12:32:19 AM » |
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Block her and be done with the games man.  +1000 |
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« Reply #11 on: December 11, 2014, 12:40:09 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks. |
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« Reply #12 on: December 11, 2014, 12:45:41 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. doesn't matter... . I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks. |
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« Reply #13 on: December 11, 2014, 12:58:02 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks. Remember we're talking mental illness. We logically look at things, they don't , they have an emotional trigger and they obsess over it and then start planning what their going to do if abandoned. Having five or six splits from mine there was no set time before she started to try to come back. Anywhere from a couple of weeks to months. |
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« Reply #14 on: December 11, 2014, 01:24:17 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks. Remember we're talking mental illness. We logically look at things, they don't , they have an emotional trigger and they obsess over it and then start planning what their going to do if abandoned. Having five or six splits from mine there was no set time before she started to try to come back. Anywhere from a couple of weeks to months. I know. The reason I don't think she will actually engage is because just 2 weeks ago she said things like "he is an upgrade, you never treated me good, never contact me again, I don't want you anymore". |
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« Reply #15 on: December 11, 2014, 01:37:18 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks. Remember we're talking mental illness. We logically look at things, they don't , they have an emotional trigger and they obsess over it and then start planning what their going to do if abandoned. Having five or six splits from mine there was no set time before she started to try to come back. Anywhere from a couple of weeks to months. I know. The reason I don't think she will actually engage is because just 2 weeks ago she said things like "he is an upgrade, you never treated me good, never contact me again, I don't want you anymore". how was she treating you two weeks prior to the split? |
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« Reply #16 on: December 11, 2014, 01:40:48 AM » |
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Like normal really. I didn't see anything coming. She only started treating me bad once I found out she was talking to this dude behind my back. We were having sex regularly, etc. Told me she loved me after breaking up with me, even.
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« Reply #17 on: December 11, 2014, 01:42:08 AM » |
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Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left.
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« Reply #18 on: December 11, 2014, 01:45:08 AM » |
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I know. The reason I don't think she will actually engage is because just 2 weeks ago she said things like "he is an upgrade, you never treated me good, never contact me again, I don't want you anymore". Hearing things like that is optional; are you taking steps to not subject yourself to that anymore? |
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« Reply #19 on: December 11, 2014, 01:49:57 AM » |
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Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left. see what can happen in the span of two weeks? it can reverse that quickly also. when i was dating the first BPD, it took around 2-3 weeks for the first recycle... . |
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« Reply #20 on: December 11, 2014, 01:52:51 AM » |
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Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left. Mine began devaluing right after we we're married. In a way I think it's a mental thing to soften the blow on them when they leave. Its a lot easier to leave someone you have yourself convinced is no good. So they build it up in their mind. |
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« Reply #21 on: December 11, 2014, 01:57:33 AM » |
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Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left. see what can happen in the span of two weeks? it can reverse that quickly also. when i was dating the first BPD, it took around 2-3 weeks for the first recycle... . It would be insane for her to try a recycle after officially being "in a relationship" with this dude on FB. We've been no contact for 11 days. The longest it's been. Her family hates me, I know that for sure. She has everyone convinced I'm the devil. I can't wrap my head around crazy. I guess I'm so curious because I do still love the b*tch, even after her showing who she really is. I'm not hoping for anything, but I would love to know what the heck she is up to. |
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« Reply #22 on: December 11, 2014, 03:10:47 AM » |
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you could be in my situation bro. it could be very confusing and exhausting. my ex went through my phone and saw old texts between me and the woman that i dated before her. this chick is a hot blonde erotica author, kimber dawn, and my ex threw her in my face. she and her npd bf STILL throw her in my face. the npd does it because he tried to date kimber and she flat out shot him down. it seems to kill his ego that i pulled her and the self-proclaimed "legend" couldn't.
together, they are fueling my recovery because the more that they do this, the more indifferent that i become to the both of them, and the more that i move forward.
i stopped asking myself why is she so fixated on this woman and why does it constantly come up? they both lie and claim that they have talked to kimber and she is now enraged because she is tired of her name coming out of their mouths.
im not being smeared, but sometimes i think that i would rather settle for smearing than this, hahaha... .
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« Reply #23 on: December 11, 2014, 03:48:39 AM » |
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Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left. see what can happen in the span of two weeks? it can reverse that quickly also. when i was dating the first BPD, it took around 2-3 weeks for the first recycle... . It would be insane for her to try a recycle after officially being "in a relationship" with this dude on FB. We've been no contact for 11 days. The longest it's been. Her family hates me, I know that for sure. She has everyone convinced I'm the devil. I can't wrap my head around crazy. I guess I'm so curious because I do still love the b*tch, even after her showing who she really is. I'm not hoping for anything, but I would love to know what the heck she is up to. Key word" insane" . I'm in the very same place you are, even more so. Restraining Order and divorced. I talked to my T about this months ago when I was still hoping we could work things out. What he told me makes sense now. He said that she would get such an ego boost if she could lure me back after everything that she's pulled . It would give her momentary worth. He was right. |
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« Reply #24 on: December 11, 2014, 03:59:42 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther. What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend . |
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« Reply #25 on: December 11, 2014, 04:05:25 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. maybe being able to see both of you at the same time kind of shook her back some? just a thought... . I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther. What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend . |
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« Reply #26 on: December 11, 2014, 04:06:00 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther. What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend . maybe being able to see both of you at the same time kind of shook her back some? just a thought... . |
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« Reply #27 on: December 11, 2014, 04:28:33 AM » |
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The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing. Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me. It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you. I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther. What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend . maybe being able to see both of you at the same time kind of shook her back some? just a thought... . I'm not sure tbh she had done a good job of avoiding me since we split maybe out of sight out of mind but then seeing me did mean something to her pass I don't know . We had massive argument on the phone 8 hours befor that then blocks me then sees me un blocks me and says sorry we bumped into each other . |
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« Reply #28 on: December 11, 2014, 04:35:11 AM » |
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what im saying is that maybe a face to face comparison of you and newbie set something off in her that has her wondering. make sense?
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« Reply #29 on: December 11, 2014, 04:35:18 AM » |
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Block her and be done with the games man. We've done this game for over 7 months after BU, eventually followed by a recycle. Whatever you think, the only way to "win" is to be out of this. |
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« Reply #30 on: December 11, 2014, 05:44:27 AM » |
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what im saying is that maybe a face to face comparison of you and newbie set something off in her that has her wondering. make sense? Yer I kind of see were your coming from I did find it strange how we had that massive argument that she had to block me then after seeing me unblocking me again and saying sorry bout me bumping into her with my replacement . Regardless of what the sorry was about or for that's the first time Ive heard her say sorry for anything since we split. |
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« Reply #31 on: December 11, 2014, 05:55:39 AM » |
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I'm guessing she does actually feel some guilt and a tiny bit of shame i reminded her of guilt in the argument just a few hours before I saw her . So maybe that's why she said sorry knowing full well I love her and had to watch her with my replacement could be a possibility ?
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« Reply #32 on: December 11, 2014, 05:59:11 AM » |
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I'm guessing she does actually feel some guilt and a tiny bit of shame i reminded her of guilt in the argument just a few hours before I saw her . So maybe that's why she said sorry knowing full well I love her and had to watch her with my replacement could be a possibility ? im thinking the same. it kind of is a possibility to explain my ex's cockroach in the light scattering when i ran into her in the gym... . |
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what im saying is that maybe a face to face comparison of you and newbie set something off in her that has her wondering. make sense? Yer I kind of see were your coming from I did find it strange how we had that massive argument that she had to block me then after seeing me unblocking me again and saying sorry bout me bumping into her with my replacement . Regardless of what the sorry was about or for that's the first time Ive heard her say sorry for anything since we split. Did she ever say that she was sorry when you were together.? |
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what im saying is that maybe a face to face comparison of you and newbie set something off in her that has her wondering. make sense? Yer I kind of see were your coming from I did find it strange how we had that massive argument that she had to block me then after seeing me unblocking me again and saying sorry bout me bumping into her with my replacement . Regardless of what the sorry was about or for that's the first time Ive heard her say sorry for anything since we split. Did she ever say that she was sorry when you were together.? several times, especially if i withdrew... . |
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« Reply #35 on: December 11, 2014, 06:03:59 AM » |
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hahaha, sorry, i just noticed that wasn't to me... .
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« Reply #36 on: December 11, 2014, 06:40:42 AM » |
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what im saying is that maybe a face to face comparison of you and newbie set something off in her that has her wondering. make sense? Yer I kind of see were your coming from I did find it strange how we had that massive argument that she had to block me then after seeing me unblocking me again and saying sorry bout me bumping into her with my replacement . Regardless of what the sorry was about or for that's the first time Ive heard her say sorry for anything since we split. Did she ever say that she was sorry when you were together.? Yes she did a few times actually after she really push it and could see that it was down to here that made me angry . |
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« Reply #37 on: December 11, 2014, 06:47:45 AM » |
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Well if your not together and she's telling you" sorry" something is up. Mine was never sorry.
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« Reply #38 on: December 11, 2014, 07:00:29 AM » |
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Well if your not together and she's telling you" sorry" something is up. Mine was never sorry. Lol that's easy to over think . She told me she was happy and wants to be with the new guy not me only yesturday. |
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« Reply #39 on: December 11, 2014, 07:09:24 AM » |
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I have noticed tho that when she does text or call it's always been early hours of the morning maybe she is alone then and thinking ? Begs the quistion why even text me in the first place ?
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« Reply #40 on: December 11, 2014, 07:17:22 AM » |
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Well if your not together and she's telling you" sorry" something is up. Mine was never sorry. Lol that's easy to over think . She told me she was happy and wants to be with the new guy not me only yesturday. Look at actions, not words man. People can say lots of things, when in actuality they feel the opposite. I really think something is heading your way. Stay on your toes. |
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« Reply #41 on: December 11, 2014, 07:27:39 AM » |
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I have noticed tho that when she does text or call it's always been early hours of the morning maybe she is alone then and thinking ? Begs the quistion why even text me in the first place ? Retaining back-up. Nothing more. Think: Selfish, Pathetic and Weak. That's the reality. |
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« Reply #42 on: December 11, 2014, 07:50:47 AM » |
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Well if your not together and she's telling you" sorry" something is up. Mine was never sorry. Lol that's easy to over think . She told me she was happy and wants to be with the new guy not me only yesturday. Look at actions, not words man. People can say lots of things, when in actuality they feel the opposite. I really think something is heading your way. Stay on your toes. Don't know she is more than goin out of her way to please the guy running around doin loads of stuff for him I only know this due to our mutuel freind he sees her a fair bit . What actions are you referring to ? The fact she text me a couple of times ? Or the fact she's even thinking of my feelings by saying sorry ? |
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« Reply #43 on: December 11, 2014, 07:52:48 AM » |
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All this blocking nonsense on socia media is a complete pile of childish crap.
I can understand if somebody is getting harrassed via messages and needs to put a stop to it but if you are doing it to get one over on your ex then I think that kind of behaviour is rather pathetic. Its something I have noticed borderlines always do.
ALSO if you look at an ex's facebook then you are going to get an illusion of how they are doing or how they look. especially if your ex is a woman. Women tend to use only the best photos of themselves and they all have this photo editing software on their phones now that make them look better.
Here is the truth. When people are doing great in life their facebook goes quiet. They hardly get time to post on it because they are too busy having fun and getting on with life. I belive the more we are doing nothing in life the more we use socia media.
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« Reply #44 on: December 11, 2014, 10:41:24 AM » |
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All this blocking nonsense on socia media is a complete pile of childish crap.
I can understand if somebody is getting harrassed via messages and needs to put a stop to it but if you are doing it to get one over on your ex then I think that kind of behaviour is rather pathetic. Its something I have noticed borderlines always do.
ALSO if you look at an ex's facebook then you are going to get an illusion of how they are doing or how they look. especially if your ex is a woman. Women tend to use only the best photos of themselves and they all have this photo editing software on their phones now that make them look better.
Here is the truth. When people are doing great in life their facebook goes quiet. They hardly get time to post on it because they are too busy having fun and getting on with life. I belive the more we are doing nothing in life the more we use socia media. I agree. I blocked my exw as I didnt want her popping up in other peoples posts. Nothing vengeful just removing a trigger. I would love to block exgf but its the only way she will comunicate when im away working. I hate going on fb and seeing her there. You are absolutely right though when they are being occupied they dont have time for fb. When they start posting and friends requesting then they are lonely and unhappy. |
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« Reply #45 on: December 11, 2014, 11:03:03 AM » |
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All this blocking nonsense on socia media is a complete pile of childish crap.
I can understand if somebody is getting harrassed via messages and needs to put a stop to it but if you are doing it to get one over on your ex then I think that kind of behaviour is rather pathetic. Its something I have noticed borderlines always do.
ALSO if you look at an ex's facebook then you are going to get an illusion of how they are doing or how they look. especially if your ex is a woman. Women tend to use only the best photos of themselves and they all have this photo editing software on their phones now that make them look better.
Here is the truth. When people are doing great in life their facebook goes quiet. They hardly get time to post on it because they are too busy having fun and getting on with life. I belive the more we are doing nothing in life the more we use socia media. I find that rather naive and black and white. |
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« Reply #46 on: December 11, 2014, 12:03:11 PM » |
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All this blocking nonsense on socia media is a complete pile of childish crap.
I can understand if somebody is getting harrassed via messages and needs to put a stop to it but if you are doing it to get one over on your ex then I think that kind of behaviour is rather pathetic. Its something I have noticed borderlines always do.
ALSO if you look at an ex's facebook then you are going to get an illusion of how they are doing or how they look. especially if your ex is a woman. Women tend to use only the best photos of themselves and they all have this photo editing software on their phones now that make them look better.
Here is the truth. When people are doing great in life their facebook goes quiet. They hardly get time to post on it because they are too busy having fun and getting on with life. I belive the more we are doing nothing in life the more we use socia media. I agree. I blocked my exw as I didnt want her popping up in other peoples posts. Nothing vengeful just removing a trigger. perfectly fine I was coming at it from more of a vengful reason. When a person does it to spite teh other. |
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« Reply #47 on: December 11, 2014, 12:09:35 PM » |
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Not a problem
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