My daughter is in her late 30's and is in an unhappy marriage. Her husband is uncaring and sometimes physical to her when she expresses her fears to him. It will inevitably end in a hugh fight. She has three children and wants to leave him but is afraid to do it because she has hair loss due to stress and her miscarriages and pregnancies. She is presently living away from her home due to his job that may last for another year. She will call me looking for help and advice from me as to what to do. She will sometimes agree to what needs to be done but she is so very depressed an unhappy that she feels that she can't do it. She feels that if she leaves him that she will be all alone and that no one could ever love her because of her hair loss. A lot of conversations that we have start out with her yelling and screaming on the phone, accusing me of not caring because I won't come and help her. I honestly don't know what to do. I lived with them most of the summer due to her being on bed rest with her last pregnancy. I also stayed an additional week when she had an infection after Christmas that required hospitalization. She got very mad that I left after she was feeling better and accused me of not caring. I know she feels that she has no life, but I feel the same way. I am seeing a very good psychologist and she has suggested that I join this group for help. My daughter has OCD andBPD. Not an easy combination to treat.
Welcome. Sorry that you are going through this.
Are you sure that her husband in uncaring? It sounds like she has a pattern of accusing people who do care of being uncaring (which I believe is very typically for BPD).
