feeling sad, baffled and upset by recent ex

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I'm new here. My recent ex and I were dating for 9 months. He showered me with attention at first and made me feel like I was his "one". Then as months went by I felt increasingly interrogated, never trusted, and was made to feel I was doing something not trustworthy although there was nothing I had actually done (except that I am still good friend with 2 exes in a platonic way, didn't divulge every detail of my financial situation, and was quite focused on my art work).

Finally, what broke the camel's back of our relationship made very little real sense to me. We are both photographers, and a photo editor we both know requested a picture from him (and sent it out to 100 other photographers, too). When I asked if I could send the editor a picture as well, in short, he accused me of only thinking of myself, being selfish, greedy, opportunistic, etc, and ended our relationship. One hour earlier he was saying "i love you" etc. It seemed to come out of nowhere, his rage and craziness, and after that he sent me several long texts and emails detailing all of my flaws and how I needed to "see the light". All of it was very painful and sudden. I am now reeling from the pain of losing him in this way, and also realizing how crazy the whole thing is. But there is no closure as he has no space to discuss like a normal adult.

[salliemay]

I'm new here. My recent ex and I were dating for 9 months. He showered me with attention at first and made me feel like I was his "one". Then as months went by I felt increasingly interrogated, never trusted, and was made to feel I was doing something not trustworthy although there was nothing I had actually done (except that I am still good friend with 2 exes in a platonic way, didn't divulge every detail of my financial situation, and was quite focused on my art work).

Finally, what broke the camel's back of our relationship made very little real sense to me. We are both photographers, and a photo editor we both know requested a picture from him (and sent it out to 100 other photographers, too). When I asked if I could send the editor a picture as well, in short, he accused me of only thinking of myself, being selfish, greedy, opportunistic, etc, and ended our relationship. One hour earlier he was saying "i love you" etc. It seemed to come out of nowhere, his rage and craziness, and after that he sent me several long texts and emails detailing all of my flaws and how I needed to "see the light". All of it was very painful and sudden. I am now reeling from the pain of losing him in this way, and also realizing how crazy the whole thing is. But there is no closure as he has no space to discuss like a normal adult.

[Loosestrife]

Hi, I'm sorry you are going through this. 

I am no expert, but you have not ended up on this forum by accident. Do not contact him. If he contacts you be polite and say you are taking some time out to think and reflect. Take the time to read the lessons and other posts on all 3 boards and keep posting on this one.

L