Leaning into the pain

[Blimblam]

For me by far the most productive thing I have done for my healing has been leaning into the pain. 

Identifying the pain of the "other," as my own. 

In fact actively seeking out situations that for some reason I find triggering or discomfort and attempting to understand the other an the perceived other of the naritive of this other person. It's ussusly when I can identify the pain of the person I'm am dealing with narratives "other," that I make some kind of breakthrough in myself but it is painful. It causes me pain that I must stay with for a while and lean into. Then typically it leads to a dream where I encounter my own shadow and lost pieces of myself are retrieved. 

It's because the narrative we perceive as our self as is essentially an illusion and the lost parts of ourself are contained in  what we perceive as an inferior other.  So by finding this pain somone is hiding from themself in their other I recognize my own within myself through empathy and by staying with the pain it heals itself. 

Recognize the you that is I = namaste

[Blimblam]

If you want a visual to help illustrate what I'm talking about here.  A yin yang symbol. 

Let's say hypothetically I see myself as the large white slice.  My other being the black slice.  So by understanding the narrative of my perceived other and identifying with that narratives other i identify the black dot within the white alice and the white dot in black slice as one and the same.