What other relationships in your life have you exhibited "non" tendencies?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

My T made passing mention a few weeks back about, perhaps I am acting my "non" behaviors out in other relationships as well as my marriage.  I was silently stifled as I immediately understood the question and its likelihood at a deep gut level.

So, though it has taken a few weeks to get into it in my mind, I have started to think through my work, friend and family of origin relationships for signs of my "non" behavior.  The more time I have spent thinking about it the more examples that have come up for me where I was definitely doing this.

In particular, I have always had a hang up about an old friend that keeps replaying in my mind over and over again.  I see this person from time to time (reinforcement) and talked with them very recently.  Knowing what I have learned from this site, I clearly see that this friendship has similar relation qualities where I played out my Non behaviors against the backdrop of his Narcissistic tendencies.  

All this made me a little (more) depressed to recognize I am a "non" in more than just romantic relationships. 

Anyone else come to this as a personal conclusion?  Have you found that your "non" behaviors are in multiple parts of your life?

How deep does the rabbit hole go?  I am getting older and sometimes wonder if I have enough time for all this awareness to make a difference for me.   

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My T made passing mention a few weeks back about, perhaps I am acting my "non" behaviors out in other relationships as well as my marriage.  I was silently stifled as I immediately understood the question and its likelihood at a deep gut level.

So, though it has taken a few weeks to get into it in my mind, I have started to think through my work, friend and family of origin relationships for signs of my "non" behavior.  The more time I have spent thinking about it the more examples that have come up for me where I was definitely doing this.

In particular, I have always had a hang up about an old friend that keeps replaying in my mind over and over again.  I see this person from time to time (reinforcement) and talked with them very recently.  Knowing what I have learned from this site, I clearly see that this friendship has similar relation qualities where I played out my Non behaviors against the backdrop of his Narcissistic tendencies.  

All this made me a little (more) depressed to recognize I am a "non" in more than just romantic relationships. 

Anyone else come to this as a personal conclusion?  Have you found that your "non" behaviors are in multiple parts of your life?

How deep does the rabbit hole go?  I am getting older and sometimes wonder if I have enough time for all this awareness to make a difference for me.