Gomez,
Seems v e r y normal to me. After all her history, how could your body not remember/respond that way? Heck, I got anxious and panic-y driving back into town just THINKING about my ex contacting me. I had a hard time sleeping. Like getting a cortisol injection... .how could we not feel affected?
One thing I have been doing a lot is left-nostril breathing to calm down. It can be done in increments of 3, 11 or 31 minutes. I have been doing a lot of 31 minute sessions! Here's the link:
www.grdhealth.com/yogameditation/leftnostril.php. It is easy, free, and can be done driving, in bed, talking on the phone etc. No good reason not to do it. I do it when I feel the panic and/or when I have trouble sleeping.
Also, magnesium supplements are great for sleeping. Took some last night and slept like a champ. The need for good sleep cannot be overstated at times like these.
Keep up the good work and indict yourself just because you feel anxious sometimes.
I think you are totally KICKING BUTT in your journey!