Violence violence violence... It doesnt ever stop.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Its two weeks since i've been on here. 2 weeks. To this day, i've been tied up and waterboarded, punched, kicked, bitten, destroyed. I've had black eyes, broken ribs, scars and chipped teeth. What am i doing?

I dont know anymore. I love my wife. I feel like im stronger than the pain i endure. Im not a victim.

But this ends one way right? I leave? She kills me? There is an end. But i dont know yet how this will unfold.

Most people say to leave... .Most people dont understand. I dont understand most of the time. My emotions are an enigma to me now. I've made arrangements to get out of here when things get bad.

But i try to do those plans, and i end up worse. Her friends are against ,e. Her family too. Am i the one with the problem?

A lot of the time i feel like ending it all, i cant take more pain... .Does that make me weak? In my head it does... .

[JPoff]

Its two weeks since i've been on here. 2 weeks. To this day, i've been tied up and waterboarded, punched, kicked, bitten, destroyed. I've had black eyes, broken ribs, scars and chipped teeth. What am i doing?

I dont know anymore. I love my wife. I feel like im stronger than the pain i endure. Im not a victim.

But this ends one way right? I leave? She kills me? There is an end. But i dont know yet how this will unfold.

Most people say to leave... .Most people dont understand. I dont understand most of the time. My emotions are an enigma to me now. I've made arrangements to get out of here when things get bad.

But i try to do those plans, and i end up worse. Her friends are against ,e. Her family too. Am i the one with the problem?

A lot of the time i feel like ending it all, i cant take more pain... .Does that make me weak? In my head it does... .

[Mutt]

Hi JPoff,

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this.

Its not your fault.

I think that there are times when we're depressed and our minds can conjure up all the bad stuff. I can relate to how you feel.

It helps to talk.

[Suzn]

I'm really sorry you're going through all of this with your wife JP.  

But i try to do those plans, and i end up worse.

Could you elaborate here?

A lot of the time i feel like ending it all, i cant take more pain... .Does that make me weak? In my head it does... .

It doesn't sound weak, it sounds like trauma.

[Suzn]

I've made arrangements to get out of here when things get bad. 

Things sound pretty bad JP. Is there a way to take a break for a few days? Go visit family or friends just for a breather?

[JPoff]

To elaborate; i made plans to leave when things get bad. The other night for example, my wife tried to choke me out, but i left. Only to be brought back home where the verbal abuse comtinued.

Im at the end of my rope here.

[an0ught]

Hi JPoff,

you are severely abused and battered, this is for a guy extremely tough to deal with. The level of systematic physical attacks you describe is unusual, dangerous and frankly criminal. Without change of direction it will get worse and that thought is truly scary!

To elaborate; i made plans to leave when things get bad. The other night for example, my wife tried to choke me out, but i left. Only to be brought back home where the verbal abuse comtinued.

Good move, you left. The result was stepping down from physical to verbal abuse. It may not look like much but it is. Can you roll back the movie in your head and find the time when in the original conflict she switched from verbal to extreme verbal & physical? Around that time or a bit earlier would have been the best time to leave.

Please be careful, educate yourself:

  - https://bpdfamily.com/discussions/search-info4.htm

  - line up outside help

Yes, it may well feel embarrassing for a man to ask for protection and admit the abuse that is going on but for the sake of both of you - this can't continue much longer.

Are there children involved? Alcohol or other exciting substances?

Hang in there  ,

a0

[Samuel S.]

What your BPD doing is inhumane. She is not, I emphasize not, treating with you with respect and with dignity. She does not love you. She hates you. Do you feel safe? It is very apparent that you do not feel safe at all, and you are allowing her to continue with this extremely abusive treatment. You deserve much better. Above and beyond all of that, it is illegal. Have you talked with any of your friends? Have you seen a therapist? Have you called the police? I suggest that you do all of these things, because your life is in danger! You can make all the rationalizations and all of the justifications for her actions; however, I suggest that you consider this question. Would she want to be treated that way herself? Obviously not! She has major anger issues. It does not matter if you have made mistakes. We all make mistakes; however, this does not justify inhumane treatment whatsoever! Again, your life is in danger! You need to leave RIGHT NOW! If there are kids involved and if they fear for their lives, they need to leave with you.