BPD and Facebook

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I mean, what is the damn connection? 

My pexBPDgf, with Narc traits lived on Facebook.  Im thinking hey love this environment as its allows them to have MANY friends, who they keep at arms length, almost living a cyber lifestyle, that eliminates the fear of engulfment but keeps up with the attention element.  Also a great "marketplace" to search for and groom victims.

I think we can all agree, Facebook can become a bit of an obsession, but i think BPD's are absolutley drawn to it as an almost needed lifeline.  They can air their pathetic "spiritual" crap spewing romantic quote after quote whilst being unable to live those scenarios themselves.  They can subtly dig at past relationships with innuendo posts and just plain act normal to the masses.

I mean this was truly an obsession for her.  Im not talking about a few posts and likes.  She had over 1000 "friends" likes 1000's of pages, and joined hundreds of groups, most of her relaxing day consisted of her having her face in her phone. 

I dont miss that!

[seang]

I mean, what is the damn connection? 

My pexBPDgf, with Narc traits lived on Facebook.  Im thinking hey love this environment as its allows them to have MANY friends, who they keep at arms length, almost living a cyber lifestyle, that eliminates the fear of engulfment but keeps up with the attention element.  Also a great "marketplace" to search for and groom victims.

I think we can all agree, Facebook can become a bit of an obsession, but i think BPD's are absolutley drawn to it as an almost needed lifeline.  They can air their pathetic "spiritual" crap spewing romantic quote after quote whilst being unable to live those scenarios themselves.  They can subtly dig at past relationships with innuendo posts and just plain act normal to the masses.

I mean this was truly an obsession for her.  Im not talking about a few posts and likes.  She had over 1000 "friends" likes 1000's of pages, and joined hundreds of groups, most of her relaxing day consisted of her having her face in her phone. 

I dont miss that!

[HappyNihilist]

My exBPDbf didn't and still doesn't have a FB account. Years ago he had one, but deleted it when his second ex-wife started asking about all the women he was friends with. FB would make it way too easy for someone to keep up with him (this from his own mouth). He likes to fly under the radar.

I think it's just up to the individual, like most things. Some pwBPD or BPD traits enjoy the narcissistic supply that FB can provide. For that matter, so do some 'normal' people. Plus it can be a convenient way to meet people, and potentially find new real-life supply. And yes, the distance probably helps some pwBPD by lessening the attachment. For the same reason, some pwBPD are drawn to long distance relationships.

FB can be obsessive on both sides after a breakup, too. I'm glad I didn't have to deal with the temptation to check out my ex's FB page after the breakup. Detaching and healing was difficult enough without that added into the mix.