Whats with BPD and stealing?

[ropend]

At my BPD sisters funeral friends of hers recalled she had stollen from them and others.

They didn't even want anything back they just mentioned it.

She started stealing from... .everyone it seems when she was about ten and didn't stop till she was almost forty and only then by death.

Can anyone explain whats with BPD and stealing?

[AsGoodAsItGets]

My ex tried to stab me, but she didn't steal from me, and she could have,  so Idk.  It could just be her, like some BPD are very suicidal.  Hope that helps

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Mine stole from me repeatedly!  And that is just the stuff I know about.  Who knows what all he really took. 

[enlighten me]

My exgf shoplifted on a couple of occasions. They where only little things that she passed off as she forgot she had them. It was strange as both times I was paying for the shopping so it wasn't as if I was a money thing.

I have pondered this and think it was either she enjoyed the excitement of it or it could have been that she felt entitled to things so just took them. I noticed with both my uBPD exs that they had to have instant gratification. They could never wait for things so it may have been something my exgf had done in the past and was just used to doing.

[mother in law]

exdil Stole a significant item in her teens. Stole an insignificant item from our place then gd's aged 12 savings. I think because she could.  Is this really BPD or just her? Or the sense of entitlement? I feel it is entitlement, laziness ie can't be bothered working for things but wants them anyway,  a great many factors that I don't pretend to understand. I have to say that we have thought about our wills as we don't trust her.  Sad!

How many really do it? Is it a trait or coincidence?

[Stolen]

I think it may be a combination of their sense of entitlement and a fractured moral compass.   What I saw in my xW and her FOO was a strong sense of entitlement to whatever "fell off the truck".  They were upper middle class, no real lack of funds, but "scoring" some booty was always a goal of theirs.  A couple of them were involved in a Christmas charity one year - tons of donated toys for children who had lost a parent.  They brought home the cream of the crop by the trunk load.  Like they were entitled to it.  Never saw a dissenting glance, it was just looked at as a great windfall.   

[Moselle]

Yes. Mine committed fraud.  Stole the children's Christmas money. Stole the savings money. Stole money we didn't have.

I think she host saw it as a logical (BPD logic) way to get what she wanted. No matter what the weekly budget was, she would overspend it and thus she needed to steal to fill the need to spend.

Her family was poor growing up so that was the excuse she used with me. I think it was impulse  control problems with a spending habit.  I think she medicated her misery by the feel good factor of spending.

I'm shocked if I look back at the money I let her spend.

[Deb]

My sister stole from me and her children. When I was young, she would just take anything I had that she wanted. She stole from our mother too. I think she just felt that she deserved it more than we did. Entitlement mentality. With one of her daughters, she would buy her expensive things that she, herself, wanted. Then steal it from her daughter after she made a big deal of giving it. Once, she helped me move then stol a cast iron pan our gma had given me. A few months later, she shows it to me and says she "bought it at a garage sale." Like I wouldn't recognize it.   Once she made a big deal of giving one daughter a very pricey bracelet, than niece went into hewr room for something and there it was in plain sight. I think it was like her way of saying she deserved it ore than we did.

[ropend]

exdil Stole a significant item in her teens. Stole an insignificant item from our place then gd's aged 12 savings. I think because she could.  Is this really BPD or just her? Or the sense of entitlement? I feel it is entitlement, laziness ie can't be bothered working for things but wants them anyway,  a great many factors that I don't pretend to understand. I have to say that we have thought about our wills as we don't trust her.  Sad!

How many really do it? Is it a trait or coincidence?

I've read that it's a common trait of BPD.

[isilme]

A big issue with my mother is shoplifting and/or theft by check.  I remember this going back to childhood, and even had the police show up to serve warrants for bad checks.  This is part of why I am NC with her, as she started using my contact information on checks, as well as my FI's mother's.  For some reason, when I am not talking to her, she stops doing it.