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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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Michelle27
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« on: December 10, 2015, 12:07:47 PM »

Just received an email from my ex's lawyer... .it's a settlement proposal.  It's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, and I don't think I'll even respond apart from finding a lawyer willing to work with me.  Not looking for legal advice here (or I'd be posting on that board) so don't mind me venting.

He has been gone for 6 months.  No contact with me other than one email.  We have a child together. She is 11 years old. Not one penny of child support paid in that time.  Almost 4 months since he contacted our daughter (she tried to stay in contact but he changed his phone number and did not inform her or me of his new number.  We own a home together with a little bit of equity.  He wants me to pay him for the equity but NOT assume half of the marital debt.  He not only wants spousal support but that is in excess of child support so while I have our daughter full time, I am to pay him every month.  And of course, my pension (he has none) and equal parenting rights.  Oh and he states he will "try" not to use our daughter as a pawn... .questioning her about me, etc...   Try?
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« Reply #1 on: December 10, 2015, 01:25:54 PM »

Just received an email from my ex's lawyer... .it's a settlement proposal.  It's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, and I don't think I'll even respond apart from finding a lawyer willing to work with me.  Not looking for legal advice here (or I'd be posting on that board) so don't mind me venting.

He has been gone for 6 months.  No contact with me other than one email.  We have a child together. She is 11 years old. Not one penny of child support paid in that time.  Almost 4 months since he contacted our daughter (she tried to stay in contact but he changed his phone number and did not inform her or me of his new number.  We own a home together with a little bit of equity.  He wants me to pay him for the equity but NOT assume half of the marital debt.  He not only wants spousal support but that is in excess of child support so while I have our daughter full time, I am to pay him every month.  And of course, my pension (he has none) and equal parenting rights.  Oh and he states he will "try" not to use our daughter as a pawn... .questioning her about me, etc...   Try?

Absolutely don't respond!  Get a lawyer ASAP!   Also try to keep your emotions in check, his lawyer may want to try to get you to respond in some way just to have something to use against you!
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« Reply #2 on: December 10, 2015, 03:09:08 PM »

Not going to respond to the lawyer yet for sure.  I'm a little calmer already.  His demands are ridiculous and I'm quite sure that the lawyer knows it... .but her job is to fight for her client so she's going to try.

The good news is that I put out feelers this morning for a lawyer and got a call back already. :-)
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