Anybody else have dreams?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

last Thurday i was honestly feeling the most detached from my exBPD gf that i have ever felt in the time we've been broken up. I've been doing a lot of work on my self. However, last thursday night i had a dream that i finally won back her approval, i had this feeling that i was worthy again and we had sex. I woke up so upset, sweating. It haunted me for the rest of the day into Saturday. Saturday i went out and got blackout drunk at a college bar (not wise). It was like i was so upset that she got into my dreams, i felt like i wasnt over her if iwas dreaming about her.

My therapist and i said that i think it is my subconscious bringing her back because of it can sense me completely letting go. And this week i had a lot of ruminations and negative/depressing thoughts. I just got to get back in the process of healing after even just one dream. I learned something here. She truly is toxic for me. She made me feel like i was worthy and thats why she holds the power and ability to give it and take it away just with a switch.

I'm just curious if anybody else's subconscious has fired up a dream about their ex partner when you were getting very close to detachment

[jc1010]

last Thurday i was honestly feeling the most detached from my exBPD gf that i have ever felt in the time we've been broken up. I've been doing a lot of work on my self. However, last thursday night i had a dream that i finally won back her approval, i had this feeling that i was worthy again and we had sex. I woke up so upset, sweating. It haunted me for the rest of the day into Saturday. Saturday i went out and got blackout drunk at a college bar (not wise). It was like i was so upset that she got into my dreams, i felt like i wasnt over her if iwas dreaming about her.

My therapist and i said that i think it is my subconscious bringing her back because of it can sense me completely letting go. And this week i had a lot of ruminations and negative/depressing thoughts. I just got to get back in the process of healing after even just one dream. I learned something here. She truly is toxic for me. She made me feel like i was worthy and thats why she holds the power and ability to give it and take it away just with a switch.

I'm just curious if anybody else's subconscious has fired up a dream about their ex partner when you were getting very close to detachment

[Lonely_Astro]

Yep.  I had one about her a couple of nights ago.  It was an odd dream for me, that I still haven't figured out.  It's put her on the forefront of my mind, of course, since I had it.  I have to resist talking to her again, not because I want back with her, but because of our last interaction things were said that I want to talk about but... .what's the point?  All it leads to is more pain and confusing emotions for me.

Dreams of our exes are completely normal. 

[anothercasualty]

I'm just curious if anybody else's subconscious has fired up a dream about their ex partner when you were getting very close to detachment

I have had many dreams lately. Some were about my current ex-GF, some were about past ex-GF's. The ones about my current ex-GF ended up being prophetic. I had one where she told me in my dream that she was already dating other people but couldn't tell me because I wasn't ready for that information. Two days later, she told me in person she was dating other people. The dream prepared me for that info. I guess somewhere in my subconscious, I knew she was dating.

Now, I am also having some wild dreams that don't involve any of my ex's, but they are crazy, off-the-wall dreams! I have no clue what the heck they are about or what they are telling me!

[jc1010]

Yep.  I had one about her a couple of nights ago.  It was an odd dream for me, that I still haven't figured out.  It's put her on the forefront of my mind, of course, since I had it.  I have to resist talking to her again, not because I want back with her, but because of our last interaction things were said that I want to talk about but... .what's the point?  All it leads to is more pain and confusing emotions for me.

Dreams of our exes are completely normal. 

I just cant wait until i'm finally detached/healed and they stop . I feel like and have been told that it's like when an addict has a dream that they used again, they got that feeling that they depended on to feel good, and when i dreamt about her i felt upset that i wasn't completely over her. With time and work though pain will subside

I'm just curious if anybody else's subconscious has fired up a dream about their ex partner when you were getting very close to detachment

I have had many dreams lately. Some were about my current ex-GF, some were about past ex-GF's. The ones about my current ex-GF ended up being prophetic. I had one where she told me in my dream that she was already dating other people but couldn't tell me because I wasn't ready for that information. Two days later, she told me in person she was dating other people. The dream prepared me for that info. I guess somewhere in my subconscious, I knew she was dating.

Now, I am also having some wild dreams that don't involve any of my ex's, but they are crazy, off-the-wall dreams! I have no clue what the heck they are about or what they are telling me!

That's crazy that they were prophetic, dreams are pretty cool... unless they turn into nightmares with our exBPDs in them

[Sunfl0wer]

Yup! 

My dreams like to bring forth things I am trying to suppress. 

A couple of weeks ago I dreamed of the ex and also my SD.  It made me think about them and the dynamic that played out in the dream for several days after.  I hope it is my subconscious compelling me to face things that need to get worked out... .then hopefully I work them out.

I am not sure I worked out anything from that last dream though.  It was a reminder of what I did not want in a relationship.

[Mr. Magnet]

Yeah.  She crushed most of them.

[2014]

For two years now, ever since he abandoned me, i've been dreaming 4-6 a week of me being in huge *abandoned* houses with many many rooms searching for him. He's never there of course... .Sometimes i find his shoes or i see an unmade bed he has slept in the night before, traces of him, but i'm always too late, he's no longer there and i'm alone. Its like being abandoned over and over again every night. Must be some Complex-ptsd im still having  :'(

[Driver]

I had a very strange and somewhat prophetic dream too. After few months of absolute NC I dreamed about my exBPDgf wanting to get euthanized because she was suffering too much. I was crying and trying to convince her not to do it. But I felt helpless. I was devastated as she was already lying in bed at the hospital ready to die. I had no access to her room. Then suddenly I woke up and felt relieved that it was just a bad dream. Two-three days later I received a message from her telling me that she was talking to her psychologist looking for a way to get the authorization to get euthanized because she was suffering too much. I must say I was taken aback. Luckily she hasn't done it.

[MapleBob]

I'm pretty sure I've been dreaming of my ex quite a bit lately. I can't remember the dreams, but I've sometimes woken up with her on mind and an anxious feeling. It might be my subconscious trying to figure it all out, but it also might just be her joining the revolving cast of characters in my more anxiety-based dream states.

[GreenEyedMonster]

Nightmares mostly.  My ex taking me to court and attempting to strangle me were the latest two.