Got another text from my mother yesterday

[unicorn2014]

She texted me to tell me she had 30 min.  When I told her I was not in her city but in another city I was informed that if my daughter or I are ever in the area she works in for 30 min on a Monday than she could see me/us. This was after telling me last Wednesday that she would email me tomorrow which would have been Thursday. Also keep in mind that in her last text to me she said the reason she would email was because she couldn't text. She was supposed to email me with empathy about my upcoming tooth extraction but no can do. Oh the best thing about the way my mom ended the text was a straight Goodbye. She'd never done that before. Usually my partner or my father does that. I was shocked. She didn't like the fact that I said I was in another city with my daughter so she got flippant. Remember she didn't text me until she actually was in the city she worked in, giving me no forewarning.

I now believe it was my mom who first set me up to accept lies as normal. Not only does my mom lie (On Wednesday she says I'll email you tomorrow and then doesn't text me until Monday) she also is obsessed with calling others out on their perceived lies. I've mentioned that she did that to me as a child and it was really damaging. She called me a liar, lazy, and other names I don't want to remember. So violent.

[Kwamina]

Hi unicorn2014

Also keep in mind that in her last text to me she said the reason she would email was because she couldn't text.

Seems she's a fast learner then

Your mother ended the text with a 'straight goodbye' which shocked you. Why did it shock you so? Was it because this is how your partner and dad end messages? What did it signal to you that she just ended the note with a 'straight goodbye'?

She didn't like the fact that I said I was in another city with my daughter so she got flippant.

When you say she got flippant, are you talking about this text she sent you out of the blue? Or are you perhaps (also) talking about something else she said or did?

She called me a liar, lazy, and other names I don't want to remember. So violent.

Being called these kinds of things by one's own mother can be very damaging indeed. Do you feel that you've been able to heal from the hurt this caused you?

Take care and I hope your tooth extraction goes/went well

[unicorn2014]

Thank you Kwamina. Things exploded with my mother today and I had to block her for the first time. She made all kinds of paranoid accusations against me, dredging things up from my adolescence. I am heart broken. This is the first time I've had to block her since getting an iPhone. She can no longer text or call me. This very much reminds me of experiences I've had with my boyfriend and my father. I'm in a state of shock as I"m recovering from a surgical extraction, my daughter snuck out at 4am to get high and than my mother viciously attacked me.