BPD ex back with NPD

[once removed]

she is actually a child in an adult's body, so maybe in her eyes she feels that if this guy really wanted me, he would have chased me.

right. think long and hard about whether thats a path you want to go down.

[Edward1981]

That's fair enough.

I guess in all of this there is a part of me that says that maybe a woman likes to be chased to know that she really mattered.

In this case though, SHE is the one that chose to start seeing someone else. My last text to her two months ago after she attempted to reach out to me to meet up with me before heading off to a summer wedding with this guy was "I don't think it's a good idea. Focus on your new relationship" to which she responded "Your call". As if by us meeting up she was doing me a favour.


That was the last communication I have had with her. Therefore if anybody should be reaching out, I believe it is her because it was HER choice to leave the relationship. In her eyes, and with the massive ego she has, she probably sees it that I should have chased her even though she went off with someone else.

[once removed]

I guess in all of this there is a part of me that says that maybe a woman likes to be chased to know that she really mattered.

a healthy woman knows how to communicate her needs and wants and will.

ill ask again though: is this a path you want to go down? it doesnt sound like it.