NC daily diary

[kc sunshine]

Anyone else counting their days? I'm on day 1. It helped me before to list some things I would do for the day that would focus on me:

1) go swimming if possible
2) eat a good breakfast
3) pray
4) call my mom
5) go to my going away party and laugh
6) plant my ex's memorial plant in my garden

[UnforgivenII]

I would exclude the memorial plant

[UnforgivenII]

They do not deserve it.

[married21years]

is it a thistle 

[kc sunshine]

hahaha, the plant was for me, for closure   

So far so good on the plan-- breakfast, mom, swimming, praying and soon I'll be off to the party. When the sadness hits me, I try to lean into it and self-soothe. xoxo

Other people that are in the early days of NC-- how is it going?

is it a thistle 

[pjstock42]

I'm over a month in to NC but often times it still feels like the discard just happened yesterday.

I never set a regimented routine for myself but there are some things I did very early on that I felt were necessary in helping me get on the right path of recovery.

One thing was making a point to go to the same stores / restaurants / bars that we always went to together but by myself. This wasn't easy at all but only a few weeks after getting that out of the way, I find myself able to go to these places with much less difficulty. Basically, I just made a point of doing things that seemed out of my comfort zone such as forcing myself to be social & keeping the same routines that I had during the relationship but learning how to be comfortable doing these routines on my own.

I hope you feel a bit better with each passing day - NC is difficult but I really do believe it's the only way to get on the path to true recovery from all of this.

[JJacks0]

I'm on day 7. The longest I've ever gone before was 9 days. She called me on the 10th day - that's when I messed up, went to see her, and had to start all over again. Honestly I was a little disappointed when I counted and realized it had only been a week. Feels like so much longer. Hopefully this will get easier for us the more time passes.

[kc sunshine]

Day 2:

go to church
see friends
eat breakfast
feel the sunshine
work on house

[kc sunshine]

Day 3:

work
yoga
swim
massage
laugh with friends
work on house
plan the rest of the summer 

[UnforgivenII]

Day 5

See EMDR therapist
See friends
Buying new things for the house