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« on: August 15, 2016, 03:14:16 PM »

I'm at a fork in the road. I'm starting classes again soon and have too many jobs to count , just to pay my rent. I don't know if I'll be able to handle this stuff with school and recently a couple that I know , an older couple said they would be willing to take me into their home.

I am struggling and the person I room with gives me a hard time , but is this a good decision?
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« Reply #1 on: August 15, 2016, 04:39:36 PM »

Well, what are the conflicting thoughts you are mulling over?  Reasons for staying and going?

I personally won't tell you what to do, but maybe explaining some of your reasoning and processing we can help you to evaluate your options and thought process about it.
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« Reply #2 on: August 15, 2016, 05:46:52 PM »

DontGiveUpOnMe:

One approach would be to have an honest conversation with the couple that offered you lodging.  What are their expectations and rules:

  • Noise level for music, etc.
  • Can you have guests over?
  • Expectations of a Curfew?
  • Kitchen privileges?
  • General access to various areas of the home (parking options)
  • Do they expect you to do any chores in compensation for room and board

As Sunflower indicated, it can be helpful to make a list of advantages and disadvantages of each decision.  You can compare the data and see which one appears to be the best.  Sometime, people give a certain category more weight than others.  (i.e. all other areas being equal, perhaps a home without conflict might carry more weight).

Which one might have the more advantages?



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