Feeling desperate ... question

[Pine Knoll]

My "escape" plan - posted elsewhere has work (girls safe and many new revelations about my uBPDw - she was seducing my brother in law (trying to convince him to have sex with her) and sucking him into the same relationship she had dragged me through for so long)... .that being said, I am now headed toward divorce ... .I got scared. I have shared things here that could be potentially damaging in a divorce procedure. Can what I posted here be used against me in court if discovered ... .I am probably being paranoid, but we all know what a uBPD person can do ... .my wife is at the "high functioning" end of the scale.

Thanks in advance,
 GR

[Naughty Nibbler]

Green River  
I'm thinking it would take an extraordinary amount of effort for someone to identify you here and then acquire the records.  You might want to post to request that the AKA be removed from you ID info., you can see it to the left of your post window.  I believe you had your ID changed, previously.

If you share any devices with anyone, you might want to make sure you browse "incognito" or get rid of your history regularly.  Make sure you password protect your device logons, so you prevent people snooping on your devices (laptop, phone, tablets, etc.).

It might be possible to request some editing of your posts.  How many posts (threads) might need editing?

[Pine Knoll]

There is a post (a couple in a thread) need to modify ... .but I can find it. How can I find all the posts that I posted? I can seem to figure it out. Please help. GR

[ArleighBurke]

To find all your own posts, click on your username on a post. It'll take you to your profile page. At the bottom is a link "show recent posts" - which shows you all your old posts.

Or do a site search for "Green River"

[Nope]

My take on this, particularly when someone is undiagnosed BPD, and has not been told they exhibit the symptoms of the disorder, is that the uBPD would have to imagine they had BPD (or imagine you would think they had BPD) to then even begin to consider the possibility that you might be posting on a message board looking for help dealing with them. If a person with BPD could look inward enough to even contemplate any of these parts of the scenario, then they are not really BPD.

[Naughty Nibbler]

Green River:
I sent you a private message.  I believe you have to have 50 or more posts to view your history.  I think I found the posts that are at issue for you.  The links appear in the PM.  I, also, forwarded, so that someone with editing capabilities can assist you.

[ForeverDad]

Some of the more sensitive boards, such as this Family Law board, cannot be viewed (or indexed by bots) unless a person is a member and logged in.

I recall the days when I was concerned whether my ex might find me here.  Didn't happen.  I'm past the 'worry' days, at least as regarding the separation & divorce issues.  That has been the experience of most, it's relatively rare that it does become an issue.  Still, better to feel relatively safe than feeling overexposed.