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« on: December 15, 2016, 09:29:22 PM »

Brené Brown on Blame


Date: Feb-2015Minutes: 3:25

Blame- Brené Brown

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Brené Brown, PhD is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past thirteen years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame.

Brown is the author of three #1 New York Times Bestsellers: Rising Strong, Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection. Brené’s 2010 TEDx Houston talk, The Power of Vulnerability, is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world, with over 25 million viewers.

Brown completed her Bachelor of Social Work (BSW) at the University of Texas at Austin in 1995, followed by a Master of Social Work (MSW) in 1996 and Ph.D. from the Graduate College of Social Work at the University of Houston in 2002

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« Reply #1 on: September 02, 2018, 04:41:24 PM »

I've been binge watching Brene brown all morning since finding this. I love her! I wonder though what she would say to holding people accountable? What do others think when someone calls you a nasty name yes you feel pain and discomfort which she defines as blame and you want to blame them and sure at the end of the day you can find empathy for the name caller/abuser and not put the blame on them and not take the pain but what do you do to hold someone accountable without blaming them and not taking on their pain? Any thoughts anyone? or does Brene have her own thoughts on this somewhere?
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« Reply #2 on: September 06, 2018, 07:53:41 PM »

Interesting thought, Star0009. Also, Brene Brown is a very positive inspiration. I like the topic that you’ve stated. Accountability. This has been a tough one to navigate, but a strong boat makes it through rough waters.

I've been binge watching Brene brown all morning since finding this. I love her! I wonder though what she would say to holding people accountable? What do others think when someone calls you a nasty name yes you feel pain and discomfort which she defines as blame and you want to blame them and sure at the end of the day you can find empathy for the name caller/abuser and not put the blame on them and not take the pain but what do you do to hold someone accountable without blaming them and not taking on their pain? Any thoughts anyone? or does Brene have her own thoughts on this somewhere?

I’m learning that there are levels to this. Accountability. I believe that you should hold your perpetrators responsible, in your mind, for what they’ve done to you for as long as you need to. This is part of the healing process. It is something that should be eventually let go of, but don’t let a video lead you astray from real life experiences. Have you started reading the right-hand side of the PSI board?
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« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2022, 09:04:26 AM »

I find that I blame myself more than anything.  It is very hard for me to not want to look in the mirror and dig deep to see how I might have caused a situation with my daughter. 
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« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2022, 11:57:09 PM »

I find that I blame myself more than anything.  It is very hard for me to not want to look in the mirror and dig deep to see how I might have caused a situation with my daughter. 

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Maybe it’s because you think that there’s a chance that if you broke it then, if only you try hard enough, you could possibility fix it. Accepting that we are powerless over other people is a very painful thing.
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