I don't know if I am ready for the "saving" board.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I don't know if I am ready for the "saving" board. All I know is I want a dose of her. I have not seen her for a week so maybe when I get back into town and I do, it might be different. There will likely be some sort of talk where she lapses back into the usual and I get frustrated.

Nothing changes until it changes. I think a different plan of action is vital but seriously uncertain.

Her moving out, giving each other some separate peace, may help me to see things clearly.

I generally feel "better" at night. Far less so in the am. Mornings are rough. I am sure this is different for everybody.

Thank you for the suggestions.

[michel71]

I don't know if I am ready for the "saving" board. All I know is I want a dose of her. I have not seen her for a week so maybe when I get back into town and I do, it might be different. There will likely be some sort of talk where she lapses back into the usual and I get frustrated.

Nothing changes until it changes. I think a different plan of action is vital but seriously uncertain.

Her moving out, giving each other some separate peace, may help me to see things clearly.

I generally feel "better" at night. Far less so in the am. Mornings are rough. I am sure this is different for everybody.

Thank you for the suggestions.

[once removed]

Nothing changes until it changes. I think a different plan of action is vital but seriously uncertain.

we have a conflicted/deciding board too. you can work the conflicting thoughts out there. face this. have a strategy, whatever you do. dont leave it to her to lead - dont keep engaging in the same dance, a painful outcome for you is a virtual guarantee.

ps. you can check out the lessons on the saving board without committing. theyre great tools for relationships of all kinds, and may inform your decision.

[michel71]

Thank you. That is a good suggestion. This journey has made me feel crazy. I have posted all over these boards.

[cosmonaut]

I have posted all over these boards.

That's not at all uncommon.  Many members aren't sure where they stand in their relationship, let alone where their partner does.  There is nothing wrong with posting on different or multiple boards.  It's a process.